Fear and Love for our Father
Sunday, October 2, 2022
Transcript
morning everyone it's so good to be here with all of you it's so exciting that we can be back it's been two three years since the last one and so much has happened and I think this gathering is so important because I always forget just how many of us there are in New England and I think it's easy we stay in our own lane and with our own Ecclesia but it really is great to make the effort to be here so I hope everyone is able to enjoy the day enjoy the fellowship and be encouraged if you look at your programs it says that I'm from Meriden and that's kind of true but two months ago I moved to New York to just outside of New York City and I've been an unofficial member and attending the South Ozone Park meeting in Jamaica Queens but I've lived in Meriden for the last five years we'll always have a special place in my heart and I just brothers and sisters there and some were able to make it today which is really really special and it's such a wonderful group and there's also the Brooklyn meeting and the Manhattan meeting just recently started meeting in person and a lot of special things and it's been a great to be a part of that so today our theme is being a child of God and there's two parts that we're going to explore so this morning right now I want to consider God as our father and what it means to fear him alongside an unparalleled love like we're gonna look at a relationship and see how there's like these two opposite things that make up this beautiful relationship that we have and then this afternoon we're gonna look at ourselves as children in God's family so we're gonna look at you know what God really wants from us how he chooses that family how he how we got here and what that means for us and I'm looking forward to that so this morning as mentioned let's think about the fear of God what it means for us and in our daily lives and I got onto this because growing up the fear of God was not something that I ever really thought about a whole lot when you're young and you're you're learning about about God and about our faith I think the focus and rightfully so is on the love that God has for us and we know that Jesus loves us and that's all we need to know because you know especially at that age that's that's what's important and that should never change and we need to hold that dear every day of our life but as I've grown older I always knew that there was another pillar of God's character to consider and as Christadelphians we make a point to remember both the goodness and the severity of God that's something that we we hold very strongly and so I asked myself do I fear God and ask yourself that like do you fear God what does that mean to you do you feel that and for me it wasn't really in like an emotion that I associated in my relationship with God it's something I knew like logically I knew logically that you know he is all-powerful and he has you know total control and his will will be done but it wasn't really something that I thought about or I didn't know how much it was actually affecting me every day and then as soon as I started looking for it I realized it's on nearly every page of the Bible and I kid you not like keep watching it and while you're reading you know in the future and it shows up almost every day during this study like friends would text me during you know the daily readings and do you see this one it's here again and like there it is and so I wanted to know more so this morning we're just gonna answer some of the and think about what is the fear of God actually how does this affect us and our behavior how does it work together with the love that we also feel for our father and then finally how did Christ fear God you know that perfect picture that we can always look to and at first glance just just before we dive in the fear of God can seem like it's it's something intimidating or something more to talk about and while a piece of that is true and I believe there is a real healthy trembling fear that we should have I think there's also so much comfort and joy defined in this topic and we'll circle back to that but I hope you're able to to find that comfort and that happiness in this you know Proverbs 28 14 says happy is the man that feareth always but he that his heart shall fall into mischief so what is the fear of God well we're commanded again and again to fear him and I again it is everywhere Psalm 34 11 says come oh children listen to me I will teach you the fear of the Lord I'm gonna pull up a fair amount of verses don't know worry about these I'll just read them Leviticus 25 and verse 17 when commands are being given to the Israelites there's a whole bunch of these commands verse 17 you shall not wrong one another but you shall fear your God for I am the Lord your God verse 36 take no interest from him or profit but fear your God that your brother may live beside you verse 43 you shall not rule over him ruthlessly but shall fear your God it's everywhere it's it's non-stop it's something that God really wants but we need to define what this actually means because I suggest to you that the fear of God is exactly as it sounds it's a literal healthy fear of him his power and the consequences of disappointing him the consequences of our own sin and I say that because fearing God can be commonly linked with respect and reverence and when asked what does it mean to actually fear God a common answer and it's a common answer that I've given for a long time I'll say it means to respect him to revere his power and that's definitely a biblical concept like Hebrews 12 verse 28 says therefore let us be grateful for receiving a kingdom that cannot be shaken and thus let us offer to God acceptable worship with reverence and awe and that's fine and good but I just want to qualify that a little bit because it's important we don't lose the real emotion that comes from trembling before our God and our Creator you know I respect a lot of people that I don't fear or revere at the same time it's it's just a piece inside of the fear Peter makes this distinction in his first letter he says in the first Peter 2 17 honor everyone love the brotherhood fear God honor the Emperor this is a specific facet of our relationship with God and in the reading that we just pulled up that that brother Josh read for us Philippians 2 this is one of the most clear examples of what this actually should mean and what this should entail for us it says in Philippians 2 verse 12 therefore my beloved as you have always obeyed so now not only as in my presence but much more in my absence work out your own salvation with fear and trembling for it is God who works in you both to will and to work for his good pleasure fear and trembling this isn't just respect and admiration this is this is being afraid this is fully understanding that God is more powerful than us and of course this isn't blind or irrational fear this isn't fear of a sudden lashing out or of something that will surprise us or of some malevolent God that's not at all what this is but so what are we fearing well we're fearing the consequences of our own sin we fear our father and his unstoppable power and the consequences of rejecting him and for this fear to make any sense we have to think of it in terms of ourselves as children of our loving and powerful father we're not afraid of an enemy who attends to intends to hurt us nothing like that it's it's quite the opposite just as a relationship between an earthly father and his children should be like ideally it's this deep and unending love paralleling at the same time high expectations of character with discipline to correct when necessary to teach and to guide and to a young child the father may as well have absolute power and for ourselves who are children of our father that is literally true and this is a choice that we make each and every day and this is something that we learn and we develop as we come to know God and his power and his purpose now Solomon has a lot to say on this on the fear of God it's the backbone of Proverbs and it's the thesis of Ecclesiastes if you want to learn more about this those are two books to start with Proverbs 1 7 defines it in an interesting way it says the fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge fools despise wisdom and instruction the beginning of knowledge now that's I think that's a really interesting way to put it but if you think about it like that makes sense doesn't it a true understanding of life and of our purpose it's impossible to find without first understanding that God is all-powerful and that all of his plans are going to pass true understanding will only come after we accept that and a core piece of the Bible's message for us is that we are to fear God and not man and we're gonna get super real for just a second but I promise we're gonna bring it around quickly and we're gonna I really want to start diving into where this lies for us Jesus makes it clear for us who we should fear and why Matthew 10 28 reads this is Jesus speaking do not fear those who kill the body but cannot kill the soul rather fear him who can destroy both soul and body in the grave he's essentially saying don't fear those that can kill you fear the one who can leave you there and as sobering verses go this might win the award I mean this puts in context for us who really has the power with any meaning who we are really supposed to answer to but remember I promised at the beginning there's this there's this deep comfort that comes from this that comfort that comes from being fearful to God and it's right here in this same passage so I want to keep reading so I'm in Matthew 10 and I'm reading I'll read verse 28 again and keep going because the context here is actually encouraging for us it says and do not fear those who kill the body but cannot kill the soul rather fear him who can destroy both soul and body in the grave are not two sparrows sold for a penny and not one of them will fall to the ground apart from your father but even the hairs of your head are all numbered fear not therefore you are of more value than many sparrows so everyone who acknowledges me before men I also will acknowledge before my father who is in heaven but whoever denies me before men I also will deny before my father who is in heaven yes this verse is a warning but so much more it's this incredible insurance that as long as we are within God's courts we don't have to be afraid of anything else he is on our side he is our loving father any other threat or problem is nothing before God anything else is completely irrelevant because God is an all-consuming fire and he watches over us and he has greater plans for us than we can ever imagine no matter what happens in this world he loves us so deeply and he wants so badly for us to call on his name and when we do he promises he will be there for us my favorite chapter in the Bible and it's a Psalm Psalm 34 has something to say and this is actually my favorite verse as well Psalm 34 in verse 7 says the angel of the Lord encamps around those who fear him and delivers them verse 8 oh taste and see that the Lord is good blessed is the man who takes refuge in him oh fear the Lord you his saints for those who fear him have no lack when we fear God he takes care of us and this is where the comfort can be seen and time and again God is telling us that we should fear him and only him the chaos that exists around us the threats or problems that might keep you up at night God assures us that we can look past those fears that our vision should be fixed on him and everything else can be background noise it can fade out and turning to Exodus this is really cool God was very intentional in teaching this very lesson to the Israelites immediately following a very well-known section of Exodus Exodus 20 is all about the Ten Commandments and then there's this little story just after or story is just the context of how this was being given that I never really focused on before but I think it's really meant to teach us a very very powerful lesson so this is Exodus 20 the Ten Commandments have just been delivered and now if we look in verse 18 we can see that they're being delivered in very dramatic fashion we look at the setting for this Exodus 20 verse 18 now when all the people saw the thunder and the flashes of lightning and the sound of the trumpet and the mountains smoking the people were afraid and they trembled and they stood far off and said to Moses you speak to us and we will listen but do not let God speak to us lest we die Moses said to the people do not fear for God has come to test you that the fear of him may be before you that you may not sin the people stood far off while Moses drew near to the thick darkness where God was imagine imagine being there thunder lightning it's loud it's a bone shaking noise and intensity that can only produce be produced by God himself being there by you being in the presence of God this is fear and trembling at its most literal form and God is telling the Israelites do you feel my power I am the Lord your God and you were going to fear me you're going to be in the wilderness against the elements you're going to be completely reliant on my guidance your children are going to battle nation after nation in a foreign land full of giants are you going to fear them no you're gonna fear me my power is the only thing that matters to you and it should do two things it should one remind you not to sin which is what it says in verse 20 and it should also give you courage because I will be leading you into battle are you seeing how the fear of God is our greatest strength and it's not just a measure of discipline when we fall in line behind our Lord this same power and majesty and intensity that that overwhelms us is also the very thing that's on our side that goes before us that's the confidence that we have and just to look at one more passage to emphasize this point because this idea is seen all over the Bible I think there's no better example that I can think of than then Peter when he's walking on the water towards Jesus and this is in Matthew 14 and starting at verse 26 and we're not going to debate right now whether or not Peter should have left the boat that's another discussion but he did and let's set the scene because I think the same lesson can be drawn out Matthew 14 and verse 26 imagine what's going on here you're on the ship there's storms you are rocking you are all convinced you're probably going to die it is a hopeless is terrifying it's that same intensity it's loud it's scary and then you look out and you see Jesus walking on the water and you're confused and you're also terrified because you don't even know that it's him you don't know what you're seeing and Peter he wants to do the impossible he wants to approach Jesus he wants to walk on the water in the midst of all this this chaos going on around and so starting at verse 26 when the disciples saw him walking on the sea they were terrified and said it is a ghost and they cried out in fear but immediately Jesus spoke to them saying take heart it is I do not be afraid and Peter answered him Lord if it is you command me to come to you on the water he said come so Peter got out of the boat and walked on the water and came to Jesus but when he saw the wind he was afraid and beginning to sink he cried out Lord save me and Jesus immediately reached out his hand and took hold of him saying oh you of little faith why did you doubt and when they got into the boat the wind ceased when Peter stepped out his vision was focused on Jesus his vision was ahead of him and when he was doing that when he was focusing only on his Lord all of the chaos around him could fade out and become quiet and he was he was doing the impossible he was walking on the water but as soon as he stopped focusing when his vision came off and he looked around and he saw the waves and the the noise and the and the wind and the storm and everything else that is when he fell that is when he started fearing something else other than his Lord Jesus that's when the problems came in and that's a lesson for us we have to keep that vision focused directly on our father he's the only one we're to fear and everything else can be doled into the background now we've talked a lot about what fear is but we need to address what it isn't because I think that this this fear that we talk about for our father that's that's a that's a healthy fear when done right but there is also an unhealthy fear and there's something that we should avoid and be see fear is a pillar of motivation and it helps us to to stay true to to God and to to watch our step and to make less mistakes and it's effective but science has something to tell us about fear and motivation and this really interests me I studied psychology in college and something that we talked about when it comes to motivating a person is that fear is a very bad long-term motivator when you're afraid physiologically your body goes into fight-or-flight mode so your heart starts beating your adrenaline gets going your nervous system gets activated and this is fantastic this is really important this is how God made us so that's when you have the bear in front of you and you need to run for the hills this system allows you to do that if you didn't have this you would not be ready to run when you needed to at a moment's notice so this is good here's the interesting thing our bodies don't discriminate when it comes to threats the bear and the life-threatening situation we will respond the same to something that isn't life-threatening per se so this can show up differently you know this could be more subtle and over a long period of time you might be worried over like a deadline in life at something that's been stressing you out for a while you're anxious over a problem-facing a family member or or something else just something kind of out of your control or you're standing up to speak in front of a lovely group of people and you know then your body's in fight-or -flight mode like you are the bear as far as my body's concerned and so like as mentioned this is good and it's very helpful in the short term but if you're experiencing this stress in this readiness for a long time continuously your body cannot handle it like the muscles in your back will get tied up in knots your neck muscles will constrict and spasm you'll be depleted physically and emotionally you'll just be exhausted you'll close up mentally put up walls to protect yourself you will burn out and if that wasn't enough you may very well start to resent the that's causing you to feel this way you'll give anything to be out from under its thumb and if you've ever worked at like a bad job with a boss that intimidated you you you might understand what this means it's it takes a physical toll on you well so what's the point of this well this shows us the need for a beautiful balance between our love of God and our fear of God and understanding of what that fear should be because if our relationship with our father is primarily based on fear of punishment and we're cowering because we we're afraid of who he is and we're afraid to approach him because we're afraid of what he might do that's just an incorrect understanding and that will take a toll we might generally cling to a strict lifestyle that adheres to his commandments but at the end of the day our hearts won't actually want to do what he wants that is extrinsic motivation that is when we're just doing something because of an external force that's making us we're seeking the intrinsic motivation that's when our heart is in it that's when we want to do something because it's we what we actually want to do that's the goal that's the love and the fear that God wants from us it would be a tragedy if our understanding of who God was led us to be resentful and burn out under the pressure and we'd be missing the incredible incredible sentiments of verses like Luke 12 32 which says fear not little flock it is your father's good pleasure to give you the kingdom but the other half of the coin then is if we have a happy-go-lucky vision of who we think God is that we can live however we please we don't have to spend our days like seeking out what his will is and doing it we don't have to watch our behavior that God exists merely to reward and fulfill our selfish interests to be a sounding board for our requests and then we don't have to bother thanking him if that is how we perceive God that's its own tragedy and we'd be missing our true calling to actually be humble servants to do his will to live a certain way and just as Moses expressed to the children of Israel in Deuteronomy 13 verse 4 you shall walk after the Lord your God and fear him and keep his commandments and obey his voice and you shall serve him and hold fast to him and so this is that beautiful balance that we should seek this this incredible deep relationship with our God and our father that is made deeper when we have both pillars both elements active and so finally if we want a good example of what that relationship should look like obviously we don't have to look any further than our Lord Jesus who we're about to remember in just a moment with these emblems there's a beautiful verse that we have to address because this will help us shift our minds to Jesus and also it's an important verse that kind of weighs in on this topic and it can be a little bit confusing at first glance and it's first John 4 and 18 and this is the one that says there is no fear in love but perfect love casts out fear for fear has to do with punishment and whoever fears has not been perfected in love now on the surface this verse may suggest that fear is like a bad thing and it's an undesirable characteristic and it's not something that we should have and it's only something that we feel if we don't have enough love for God but I don't think that's correct because remember that all the verses that we've referenced so far are still true fear is something that God wants us to have and it's something that works for our benefit and for our comfort but here John is speaking of perfect love the kind that we have when 100% of our transgressions have been forgiven by Jesus this is something that we will experience in the kingdom when we no longer have to fear the consequences of sin that is when that fear will be cast out because let me ask you this did Jesus fear God I think yes absolutely and in the Bible tells us he did we don't have to guess Hebrews 5 verses 7 and 8 say who in the days of his flesh is referring to Christ when he had offered up prayers and supplications with strong crying and tears unto him that was able to save him from death and was heard in that he feared though he were a son yet learned he obedience by the things which he suffered now Christ was sinless he had no reason to fear the consequences of God but remember fearing God is that choice it is an understanding and a trembling at his power and the knowledge that his plan is going to be worked out and we know Jesus feared God for other reasons as well Solomon told us in Proverbs that fear is the beginning of knowledge and wisdom and I mean Luke 2 in verse 52 this is referring to Jesus when he was young says Jesus increased in wisdom and in stature and in favor with God and man of course he feared God and he did it in the most healthy and beautiful and perfect way possible and in the Garden of Gethsemane when he was at his lowest and he was struggling with what was about to happen it was his deep love for his father and desire to carry out his will that helped him get through the toughest task every part of him when it just wished that he could be free from the trials ahead ultimately he continually prayed that your will be done and not my own he deeply wanted his father's will to be done and tying back to those pillars of motivation if if Christ had this incorrect understanding that he was only acting out of fear of consequence if he didn't obey I don't think he would have been able to follow through with that ultimate imperfect sacrifice he would have broken under the pressure he would not have been able to do such an incredible thing but of course he was motivated by that love and healthy fear of God he had his vision focused clear the background could noise could phase out and God was the only one he had to fear and nothing that man could do so let's leave here today with that vision focused directly on our father no matter what the headlines say or no matter what might be going on in our lives we know that it is nothing else that we have to fear and only our God he's the only one worth our attention Psalm 56 verse 11 says in God I trust I shall not be afraid what shall man do to me and the last piece that I think is so awesome when it comes to the comfort that is in this fear is if we love God and we fear God and we're afraid of the consequences of what will happen if we reject him that means we trust him that means we believe that his word is going to come true and that his plan will be realized when we fear God it's an acknowledgement of our own faith and by making that decision to fear God and to be wrapped in his loving care we have that beautiful trust and joy and peace so focus now on this bread and wine showing our Lord Jesus in his unshakable vision that he kept on our father he's our perfect example that we never stop looking to and look forward to serving him in the kingdomThe Family of God
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