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Don't<00:10:22.100><c> betray</c><00:10:22.399><c> your</c><00:10:22.659><c> husband.</c>

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failings,<00:10:42.019><c> you</c><00:10:42.379><c> would</c><00:10:42.580><c> read</c><00:10:42.779><c> a</c><00:10:42.940><c> newspaper</c><00:10:43.320><c> every</c><00:10:43.679><c> morning.</c>

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Well,<00:10:44.120><c> here's</c><00:10:44.360><c> what</c><00:10:44.480><c> Brother</c><00:10:44.759><c> Ken</c><00:10:44.960><c> did</c><00:10:45.179><c> and</c><00:10:45.360><c> here's</c><00:10:45.519><c> what</c><00:10:45.679><c> Brother</c><00:10:45.919><c> Tim</c><00:10:46.139><c> did.</c>

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Here's<00:10:47.059><c> what</c><00:10:47.179><c> Brother</c><00:10:47.399><c> Mark</c><00:10:47.639><c> did.</c><00:10:48.019><c> God</c><00:10:48.179><c> doesn't</c><00:10:48.440><c> work</c><00:10:48.700><c> that</c><00:10:48.960><c> way.</c>

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And<00:10:57.080><c> it</c><00:10:57.299><c> isn't</c><00:10:57.440><c> just</c><00:10:57.759><c> husbands</c><00:10:58.080><c> to</c><00:10:58.340><c> wives,</c><00:10:58.639><c> it's</c><00:10:58.860><c> wives</c><00:10:59.120><c> to</c><00:10:59.379><c> husbands.</c>

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But<00:11:01.179><c> you</c><00:11:01.279><c> don't</c><00:11:01.500><c> normally</c><00:11:02.059><c> have,</c><00:11:02.700><c> I</c><00:11:02.820><c> think,</c><00:11:03.360><c> a</c><00:11:03.360><c> strong</c><00:11:03.559><c> tendency</c><00:11:04.100><c> in</c><00:11:04.440><c> the</c>

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fellows<00:11:04.919><c> to</c><00:11:05.179><c> talk</c><00:11:05.600><c> to</c><00:11:05.879><c> other</c><00:11:06.159><c> fellows</c><00:11:06.460><c> about</c><00:11:07.139><c> their</c><00:11:07.620><c> wives'</c><00:11:08.139><c> failings.</c>

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And<00:11:11.019><c> I'm</c><00:11:11.159><c> not</c><00:11:11.360><c> trying</c><00:11:11.519><c> to</c><00:11:11.720><c> say</c><00:11:11.820><c> it's</c><00:11:12.240><c> stronger</c><00:11:12.480><c> one</c><00:11:12.659><c> way</c><00:11:12.820><c> or</c>

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Just<00:11:14.139><c> sisters,</c><00:11:14.460><c> be</c><00:11:14.659><c> aware.</c><00:11:15.220><c> It's</c><00:11:15.519><c> a</c><00:11:15.659><c> privileged</c><00:11:15.980><c> position.</c>

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Don't<00:11:16.700><c> betray</c><00:11:17.000><c> your</c><00:11:17.220><c> husband</c><00:11:17.559><c> because</c><00:11:18.559><c> it's</c><00:11:18.860><c> not</c><00:11:19.000><c> what</c><00:11:19.159><c> a</c>

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helper<00:11:19.460><c> does.</c>

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We<00:11:28.019><c> didn't</c><00:11:28.320><c> spend</c><00:11:28.860><c> any</c><00:11:29.320><c> time</c><00:11:29.519><c> yesterday.</c>

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I've<00:11:30.360><c> included</c><00:11:30.639><c> it</c><00:11:30.820><c> this</c><00:11:31.000><c> morning,</c><00:11:31.580><c> the</c><00:11:31.720><c> second</c><00:11:31.879><c> to</c><00:11:32.000><c> last</c><00:11:32.240><c> bullet.</c>

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She<00:11:32.580><c> needs</c><00:11:32.779><c> to</c><00:11:32.879><c> be</c><00:11:33.059><c> careful</c><00:11:33.279><c> that</c><00:11:33.559><c> she</c><00:11:33.740><c> doesn't</c><00:11:33.980><c> place</c><00:11:34.200><c> a</c><00:11:34.419><c> burden</c><00:11:34.580><c> of</c>

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materialism<00:11:35.779><c> upon</c><00:11:36.419><c> her</c><00:11:36.620><c> husband</c><00:11:36.860><c> by</c><00:11:37.159><c> seeking</c><00:11:37.379><c> things</c><00:11:37.720><c> that</c>

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you<00:11:45.840><c> know,</c>

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we<00:11:46.240><c> are</c><00:11:46.480><c> not</c><00:11:47.379><c> trying</c><00:11:47.779><c> to</c><00:11:48.019><c> tell</c><00:11:48.179><c> you</c><00:11:49.360><c> how</c><00:11:49.960><c> any</c><00:11:50.559><c> particular</c><00:11:51.179><c> principle</c><00:11:51.899><c> should</c><00:11:52.700><c> apply</c><00:11:53.019><c> in</c>

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your<00:11:53.379><c> marriage.</c>

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You<00:11:54.980><c> know,</c><00:11:55.259><c> I</c><00:11:55.460><c> hope</c><00:11:55.639><c> nobody</c><00:11:55.879><c> goes</c><00:11:56.179><c> away</c><00:11:56.559><c> this</c><00:11:56.940><c> weekend</c><00:11:57.419><c> and</c><00:11:58.639><c> says,</c>

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well,<00:11:59.120><c> wait</c><00:11:59.259><c> a</c><00:11:59.340><c> minute,</c><00:11:59.620><c> now,</c><00:11:59.720><c> I've</c><00:12:00.039><c> heard</c><00:12:00.539><c> Brother</c><00:12:00.960><c> Ken</c><00:12:01.259><c> say</c>

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that<00:12:01.919><c> this</c><00:12:02.200><c> is</c><00:12:02.440><c> what</c><00:12:02.639><c> you</c><00:12:03.340><c> need</c><00:12:03.779><c> to</c><00:12:04.039><c> do</c><00:12:04.340><c> for</c><00:12:04.620><c> me.</c>

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But<00:12:06.179><c> that's,</c><00:12:07.179><c> if</c><00:12:07.379><c> you</c><00:12:07.559><c> heard</c><00:12:07.759><c> that,</c><00:12:08.240><c> I</c><00:12:08.460><c> misspoke</c><00:12:08.919><c> it.</c>

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And<00:12:09.620><c> let</c><00:12:09.740><c> me</c><00:12:09.879><c> say</c><00:12:10.019><c> right</c><00:12:10.279><c> now,</c><00:12:11.059><c> there</c><00:12:11.320><c> is</c><00:12:11.620><c> nothing</c><00:12:11.919><c> I've</c><00:12:12.279><c> said</c>

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so<00:12:12.840><c> far</c><00:12:13.360><c> where</c><00:12:14.080><c> I'm</c><00:12:14.379><c> saying</c><00:12:14.639><c> husbands,</c><00:12:15.399><c> you</c><00:12:15.820><c> need</c><00:12:16.000><c> to</c><00:12:16.240><c> do</c><00:12:16.440><c> this</c>

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We<00:12:19.860><c> have</c><00:12:20.019><c> been</c><00:12:20.299><c> sharing</c><00:12:20.539><c> with</c><00:12:20.779><c> you</c><00:12:20.940><c> the</c><00:12:21.240><c> principles</c><00:12:21.820><c> of</c><00:12:22.200><c> God.</c>

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You<00:12:23.899><c> have</c><00:12:24.139><c> to</c><00:12:24.379><c> then</c><00:12:24.600><c> in</c><00:12:24.820><c> your</c><00:12:25.159><c> conversation</c><00:12:25.899><c> together,</c><00:12:26.980><c> take</c>

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live<00:12:32.320><c> up</c><00:12:32.539><c> to</c><00:12:32.740><c> those</c>

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so<00:12:33.860><c> that</c><00:12:34.039><c> your</c><00:12:34.279><c> marriage</c><00:12:34.879><c> is</c><00:12:35.399><c> in</c><00:12:35.620><c> conformity</c><00:12:36.220><c> with</c><00:12:36.419><c> those</c><00:12:36.679><c> principles</c><00:12:37.220><c> and</c>

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God<00:12:37.720><c> is</c><00:12:38.000><c> glorified.</c>

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And<00:12:39.799><c> God</c><00:12:39.960><c> is</c><00:12:40.340><c> never</c><00:12:40.600><c> glorified</c><00:12:41.379><c> when</c><00:12:41.600><c> one</c><00:12:41.840><c> of</c><00:12:41.960><c> his</c><00:12:42.179><c> principles</c>

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He's<00:12:49.679><c> very</c><00:12:50.019><c> protective</c><00:12:50.539><c> of</c><00:12:50.759><c> that</c><00:12:50.960><c> aspect</c><00:12:51.320><c> of</c><00:12:51.500><c> his</c><00:12:51.639><c> creation.</c>

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Use<00:12:58.080><c> it</c><00:12:58.279><c> as</c><00:12:59.519><c> as</c><00:12:59.820><c> principles</c><00:13:00.179><c> that</c><00:13:00.419><c> we</c><00:13:00.580><c> both</c><00:13:00.879><c> submit</c><00:13:01.159><c> to</c><00:13:01.580><c> having</c>

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It's<00:13:28.279><c> a</c><00:13:28.500><c> wonderful</c><00:13:28.940><c> life</c><00:13:29.299><c> described</c><00:13:29.779><c> in</c><00:13:30.019><c> Proverbs</c><00:13:30.299><c> 31.</c>

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classes<00:13:35.259><c> with</c><00:13:35.519><c> young</c><00:13:35.740><c> sisters.</c>

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I've<00:13:36.659><c> been</c><00:13:36.820><c> to</c><00:13:36.960><c> one</c><00:13:37.059><c> of</c><00:13:37.179><c> those,</c><00:13:37.379><c> but</c><00:13:37.519><c> it's</c><00:13:37.820><c> just</c><00:13:38.039><c> marvelous</c><00:13:38.419><c> for</c><00:13:38.980><c> older</c><00:13:39.299><c> sisters</c><00:13:39.659><c> to</c>

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be<00:13:39.960><c> talking</c><00:13:40.179><c> to</c><00:13:40.419><c> younger</c><00:13:40.620><c> sisters</c><00:13:41.039><c> about</c><00:13:41.600><c> the</c><00:13:41.980><c> role</c><00:13:42.120><c> of</c><00:13:42.320><c> sisters</c><00:13:42.620><c> as</c><00:13:42.899><c> Titus</c><00:13:43.120><c> 2</c>

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talks<00:13:43.600><c> about.</c>

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It<00:13:44.559><c> is</c><00:13:44.879><c> a</c><00:13:45.100><c> wonderful</c><00:13:45.419><c> life</c><00:13:45.799><c> and</c><00:13:46.419><c> it's</c><00:13:47.139><c> portrayed</c><00:13:47.500><c> in</c><00:13:47.720><c> scripture</c><00:13:48.200><c> to</c><00:13:49.539><c> to</c><00:13:49.659><c> be</c><00:13:49.779><c> that.</c>

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But<00:13:51.200><c> that</c><00:13:51.460><c> is</c><00:13:51.679><c> a</c><00:13:51.820><c> reflection</c><00:13:52.299><c> Proverbs</c><00:13:52.799><c> 31</c><00:13:53.200><c> is</c><00:13:53.639><c> of</c><00:13:55.039><c> of</c><00:13:55.200><c> the</c><00:13:55.919><c> responsibilities</c><00:13:56.639><c> that</c><00:13:56.940><c> a</c>

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wife<00:13:57.200><c> has</c><00:13:57.879><c> to</c><00:13:58.620><c> her</c><00:13:59.179><c> to</c><00:13:59.480><c> her</c><00:13:59.779><c> husband</c><00:14:00.120><c> and</c><00:14:00.879><c> to</c><00:14:01.120><c> the</c><00:14:01.299><c> marriage</c><00:14:01.580><c> relationship.</c>

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And<00:14:03.200><c> just</c><00:14:03.559><c> so</c><00:14:03.860><c> we're</c><00:14:05.159><c> you</c><00:14:06.580><c> know,</c><00:14:06.759><c> another</c><00:14:07.080><c> point</c><00:14:07.320><c> I</c><00:14:07.539><c> have</c><00:14:07.720><c> found</c><00:14:07.960><c> helpful</c><00:14:08.419><c> is</c><00:14:09.320><c> that</c><00:14:10.240><c> you</c><00:14:12.139><c> know,</c><00:14:12.279><c> when</c><00:14:12.419><c> it</c><00:14:12.559><c> comes</c><00:14:12.740><c> to</c><00:14:12.919><c> this</c><00:14:13.179><c> study,</c><00:14:13.340><c> I</c>

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think<00:14:13.559><c> we</c><00:14:13.740><c> mentioned</c><00:14:13.940><c> it</c><00:14:14.139><c> yesterday.</c>

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Mark<00:14:18.299><c> there</c><00:14:18.620><c> because</c><00:14:18.899><c> we</c><00:14:19.080><c> have</c><00:14:19.279><c> to</c><00:14:19.340><c> go</c><00:14:19.559><c> to</c><00:14:19.700><c> the</c><00:14:19.899><c> pieces</c><00:14:20.379><c> to</c><00:14:21.360><c> and</c>

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put<00:14:21.899><c> them</c><00:14:22.100><c> together.</c>

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So<00:14:22.620><c> you</c><00:14:22.759><c> take</c><00:14:22.940><c> the</c><00:14:23.139><c> Proverbs</c><00:14:23.440><c> 31</c><00:14:23.899><c> piece</c><00:14:24.240><c> and</c><00:14:24.379><c> you</c><00:14:24.559><c> mark</c><00:14:24.620><c> it</c><00:14:24.799><c> alongside</c><00:14:25.240><c> the</c>

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Ephesians<00:14:26.700><c> five.</c>

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And<00:14:29.960><c> then</c><00:14:30.159><c> Proverbs</c><00:14:30.480><c> 31</c><00:14:30.940><c> is</c><00:14:31.240><c> the</c><00:14:31.440><c> picture</c><00:14:31.799><c> for</c><00:14:32.100><c> the</c><00:14:32.299><c> wives</c><00:14:32.460><c> of</c>

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what<00:14:32.779><c> this</c><00:14:33.000><c> looks</c><00:14:33.159><c> like.</c>

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Another<00:14:34.320><c> case</c><00:14:34.700><c> is</c><00:14:35.220><c> Proverbs</c><00:14:35.620><c> 18</c><00:14:36.039><c> verse</c><00:14:36.279><c> 22,</c><00:14:36.860><c> where</c><00:14:37.019><c> it</c><00:14:37.179><c> says</c><00:14:37.299><c> he</c><00:14:37.500><c> who</c><00:14:37.679><c> finds</c><00:14:38.019><c> a</c>

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wife<00:14:38.539><c> finds</c><00:14:38.840><c> a</c><00:14:39.000><c> good</c><00:14:39.220><c> thing.</c>

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And<00:14:40.539><c> then</c><00:14:40.679><c> you</c><00:14:40.820><c> put</c><00:14:40.940><c> that</c><00:14:41.179><c> alongside</c><00:14:41.620><c> Genesis</c><00:14:42.039><c> to</c><00:14:42.379><c> where</c><00:14:42.639><c> Adam</c>

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without<00:14:43.259><c> Eve</c><00:14:43.639><c> was</c><00:14:43.879><c> in</c><00:14:44.019><c> a</c><00:14:44.179><c> not</c><00:14:44.320><c> very</c><00:14:44.600><c> good</c><00:14:44.779><c> place.</c>

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So<00:14:46.080><c> you</c><00:14:46.419><c> put</c><00:14:46.580><c> them</c><00:14:46.700><c> together</c><00:14:46.960><c> and</c><00:14:47.080><c> you</c><00:14:47.240><c> see</c><00:14:47.320><c> the</c><00:14:47.500><c> picture</c><00:14:47.740><c> that</c>

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that<00:14:48.980><c> God</c><00:14:49.179><c> is</c><00:14:49.440><c> intended</c><00:14:49.759><c> for</c><00:14:50.139><c> us</c><00:14:50.360><c> to</c><00:14:50.740><c> for</c><00:14:51.179><c> us</c><00:14:51.340><c> to</c><00:14:51.519><c> have.</c>

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Number<00:14:55.860><c> eight,</c><00:14:56.720><c> a</c><00:14:56.860><c> wife</c><00:14:56.980><c> needs</c><00:14:57.259><c> to</c><00:14:57.500><c> see</c><00:14:57.620><c> the</c><00:14:57.820><c> spiritual</c><00:14:58.240><c> romance</c><00:14:58.620><c> in</c>

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Ephesians<00:14:59.139><c> five.</c>

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You<00:15:00.440><c> know,</c><00:15:00.639><c> I</c><00:15:01.240><c> I</c><00:15:01.240><c> stress</c><00:15:01.580><c> this</c><00:15:02.220><c> because</c><00:15:02.659><c> it's</c><00:15:02.860><c> so</c><00:15:03.120><c> easy</c><00:15:03.299><c> to</c><00:15:03.539><c> read</c><00:15:03.679><c> scripture</c><00:15:04.100><c> and</c>

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and<00:15:05.120><c> not</c><00:15:05.340><c> see</c><00:15:05.500><c> it.</c>

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But<00:15:06.360><c> there</c><00:15:06.620><c> is</c><00:15:06.980><c> romance</c><00:15:07.440><c> in</c><00:15:07.620><c> Ephesians</c><00:15:08.019><c> five.</c>

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In<00:15:08.720><c> my</c><00:15:09.000><c> mind,</c><00:15:10.139><c> why</c><00:15:10.279><c> is</c><00:15:10.379><c> the</c><00:15:10.500><c> best</c><00:15:10.740><c> we</c><00:15:10.919><c> can</c><00:15:11.139><c> do?</c>

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He<00:15:13.799><c> is</c><00:15:14.059><c> providing</c><00:15:14.440><c> you</c><00:15:14.679><c> with</c><00:15:14.799><c> a</c><00:15:14.960><c> man</c><00:15:15.100><c> who</c><00:15:15.259><c> is</c><00:15:15.440><c> willing</c><00:15:15.659><c> to</c><00:15:15.960><c> devote</c><00:15:16.200><c> his</c>

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life<00:15:16.720><c> to</c><00:15:16.919><c> your</c><00:15:17.159><c> salvation,</c><00:15:18.440><c> to</c><00:15:18.700><c> slaying</c><00:15:18.940><c> the</c><00:15:19.139><c> enemy.</c>

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I<00:15:20.480><c> I</c><00:15:20.500><c> can't</c><00:15:20.960><c> see</c><00:15:21.120><c> anything</c><00:15:21.399><c> more</c><00:15:21.740><c> romantic</c><00:15:22.259><c> than</c><00:15:22.559><c> that.</c>

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movies<00:15:26.320><c> or</c><00:15:26.480><c> you</c><00:15:26.639><c> have</c><00:15:26.840><c> some</c><00:15:27.100><c> other</c><00:15:27.340><c> idea</c><00:15:27.779><c> of</c><00:15:27.960><c> what</c><00:15:28.179><c> romance</c><00:15:28.580><c> is,</c><00:15:28.899><c> get</c><00:15:29.080><c> rid</c><00:15:29.240><c> of</c>

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it<00:15:29.539><c> all.</c>

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Because<00:15:30.919><c> God</c><00:15:31.240><c> is</c><00:15:31.519><c> providing</c><00:15:31.860><c> to</c><00:15:32.259><c> you</c><00:15:33.379><c> the</c><00:15:33.840><c> man</c><00:15:34.100><c> sitting</c><00:15:34.399><c> next</c>

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to<00:15:34.980><c> you</c><00:15:35.200><c> who</c><00:15:35.340><c> is</c><00:15:35.580><c> devoting</c><00:15:35.980><c> his</c><00:15:36.379><c> life</c><00:15:36.940><c> to</c><00:15:37.460><c> your</c><00:15:37.779><c> salvation.</c>

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And<00:15:40.659><c> I</c><00:15:40.740><c> know</c><00:15:41.200><c> your</c><00:15:41.620><c> husband</c><00:15:41.919><c> has</c><00:15:42.159><c> all</c><00:15:42.360><c> kinds</c><00:15:42.600><c> of</c><00:15:42.820><c> failings,</c><00:15:44.120><c> but</c><00:15:44.320><c> he</c>

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carries<00:15:44.899><c> that</c><00:15:45.279><c> responsibility</c><00:15:46.039><c> in</c><00:15:46.580><c> his</c><00:15:46.940><c> mind</c><00:15:47.299><c> at</c><00:15:47.559><c> all</c><00:15:47.759><c> times,</c>

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even<00:15:49.299><c> in</c><00:15:49.500><c> those</c><00:15:49.679><c> times</c><00:15:49.919><c> when</c><00:15:50.059><c> you</c><00:15:50.220><c> have</c><00:15:50.399><c> discussions</c><00:15:50.940><c> and</c><00:15:51.139><c> the</c>

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discussions<00:15:51.679><c> don't</c><00:15:52.019><c> go</c><00:15:52.299><c> well.</c>

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He<00:15:53.399><c> still</c><00:15:53.919><c> carries</c><00:15:54.360><c> with</c><00:15:54.620><c> him</c><00:15:55.039><c> in</c><00:15:55.340><c> his</c><00:15:55.659><c> mind.</c>

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I<00:15:56.659><c> have</c><00:15:56.860><c> a</c><00:15:57.019><c> responsibility</c><00:15:57.759><c> to</c><00:15:58.139><c> save</c><00:15:58.519><c> this</c><00:15:58.980><c> woman.</c>

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And<00:15:59.960><c> it</c><00:16:00.080><c> becomes</c><00:16:00.320><c> an</c><00:16:00.679><c> anchor</c><00:16:00.980><c> for</c><00:16:01.299><c> an</c><00:16:01.919><c> anchor</c><00:16:02.299><c> that,</c><00:16:02.860><c> you</c><00:16:02.960><c> know,</c><00:16:04.100><c> that</c>

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that<00:16:04.279><c> provides</c><00:16:04.580><c> a</c><00:16:05.200><c> parameter</c><00:16:05.460><c> for</c><00:16:05.700><c> his</c><00:16:06.179><c> parameter</c><00:16:06.500><c> for</c><00:16:06.820><c> his</c>

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his<00:16:07.980><c> actions,</c>

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even<00:16:08.639><c> when</c><00:16:08.779><c> his</c><00:16:08.960><c> actions</c><00:16:09.340><c> are</c><00:16:09.899><c> not</c><00:16:10.120><c> always</c><00:16:10.480><c> the</c><00:16:10.679><c> right</c><00:16:10.899><c> thing.</c>

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salvation<00:16:15.159><c> love</c><00:16:15.379><c> and</c><00:16:15.559><c> also</c><00:16:15.759><c> become</c><00:16:16.100><c> part</c><00:16:16.419><c> of</c><00:16:16.639><c> or</c><00:16:16.799><c> be</c><00:16:17.000><c> added</c><00:16:17.139><c> to</c>

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And<00:16:18.940><c> as</c><00:16:19.059><c> we</c><00:16:19.279><c> saw,</c><00:16:19.519><c> only</c><00:16:19.759><c> the</c><00:16:19.980><c> latter</c><00:16:20.139><c> will</c><00:16:20.379><c> enable</c><00:16:20.620><c> a</c><00:16:20.779><c> marriage</c>

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to<00:16:21.220><c> withstand</c><00:16:21.500><c> the</c><00:16:21.779><c> trials.</c>

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And<00:16:23.840><c> lastly,</c><00:16:24.139><c> don't</c><00:16:24.340><c> just</c><00:16:24.580><c> see</c><00:16:24.779><c> your</c><00:16:25.139><c> roles</c><00:16:25.379><c> and</c><00:16:25.720><c> responsibilities</c><00:16:26.360><c> from</c><00:16:26.679><c> the</c>

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natural<00:16:27.200><c> standpoint.</c>

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You<00:16:28.940><c> know,</c><00:16:29.220><c> don't</c><00:16:29.539><c> read</c><00:16:29.799><c> Ephesians</c><00:16:30.240><c> five</c><00:16:30.700><c> and</c><00:16:30.940><c> say,</c><00:16:31.320><c> well,</c><00:16:31.720><c> what</c><00:16:31.940><c> do</c>

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I<00:16:32.419><c> have</c><00:16:32.659><c> to</c><00:16:32.919><c> do?</c>

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And<00:16:35.200><c> then</c><00:16:35.460><c> say,</c><00:16:35.820><c> well,</c><00:16:36.000><c> what</c><00:16:36.120><c> does</c><00:16:36.259><c> my</c><00:16:36.600><c> spouse</c><00:16:36.899><c> have</c><00:16:37.220><c> to</c><00:16:37.460><c> do?</c>

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Don't<00:16:38.259><c> see</c><00:16:38.460><c> it</c><00:16:38.620><c> as</c><00:16:38.799><c> a</c><00:16:38.919><c> have</c><00:16:39.139><c> to</c><00:16:39.340><c> do.</c>

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Christ<00:16:41.759><c> did</c><00:16:42.039><c> not</c><00:16:42.279><c> walk</c><00:16:42.539><c> up,</c><00:16:42.779><c> wake</c><00:16:43.019><c> up</c><00:16:43.200><c> each</c><00:16:43.480><c> morning</c><00:16:43.759><c> and</c><00:16:44.000><c> say,</c>

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now,<00:16:44.340><c> what</c><00:16:44.500><c> do</c><00:16:44.759><c> I</c><00:16:44.940><c> have</c><00:16:45.379><c> to</c><00:16:45.639><c> do</c><00:16:46.320><c> to</c><00:16:47.379><c> fulfill</c><00:16:47.720><c> my</c><00:16:48.000><c> roles</c><00:16:48.259><c> and</c><00:16:48.559><c> responsibilities?</c>

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He<00:16:49.600><c> woke</c><00:16:49.779><c> up</c><00:16:49.960><c> each</c><00:16:50.200><c> morning</c><00:16:50.379><c> and</c><00:16:50.539><c> said,</c><00:16:50.720><c> what</c><00:16:50.940><c> can</c><00:16:51.200><c> I</c><00:16:51.480><c> do</c><00:16:52.159><c> to</c>

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help<00:16:52.799><c> save</c><00:16:53.200><c> people?</c>

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So<00:16:54.980><c> I</c><00:16:55.080><c> would</c><00:16:55.259><c> appeal</c><00:16:55.539><c> to</c><00:16:55.779><c> you,</c><00:16:55.960><c> you</c><00:16:55.960><c> know,</c><00:16:56.259><c> husbands,</c><00:16:57.440><c> when</c><00:16:57.519><c> you</c><00:16:57.779><c> see</c><00:16:58.080><c> the</c><00:16:58.820><c> expectations</c><00:16:59.659><c> and</c><00:16:59.899><c> the</c><00:17:00.080><c> commands</c><00:17:00.279><c> of</c>

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God<00:17:00.659><c> in</c><00:17:00.860><c> Ephesians</c><00:17:01.200><c> five</c>

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and<00:17:01.659><c> what</c><00:17:01.779><c> your</c><00:17:02.019><c> wife</c><00:17:02.279><c> is</c><00:17:02.860><c> commanded</c><00:17:03.179><c> to</c><00:17:03.399><c> do,</c><00:17:03.519><c> what</c><00:17:03.820><c> can</c><00:17:04.099><c> you</c>

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do<00:17:04.980><c> to</c><00:17:05.799><c> help</c><00:17:06.119><c> her</c><00:17:06.539><c> fulfill</c><00:17:07.180><c> those</c><00:17:07.779><c> responsibilities</c><00:17:08.700><c> that</c><00:17:08.980><c> are</c><00:17:09.119><c> given</c><00:17:09.259><c> by</c><00:17:09.500><c> God?</c>

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And<00:17:10.420><c> wives,</c><00:17:10.920><c> what</c><00:17:11.160><c> can</c><00:17:11.480><c> you</c><00:17:11.779><c> do</c><00:17:12.319><c> in</c><00:17:12.519><c> reading</c><00:17:12.799><c> your</c><00:17:13.119><c> husband's</c>

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responsibilities<00:17:14.400><c> in</c><00:17:14.599><c> Ephesians</c><00:17:15.099><c> five</c>

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to<00:17:15.920><c> help</c><00:17:16.160><c> him</c><00:17:16.519><c> fulfill</c><00:17:17.180><c> and</c><00:17:17.700><c> honor</c><00:17:17.940><c> and</c><00:17:18.220><c> obey</c><00:17:18.579><c> those</c><00:17:18.900><c> commands</c>

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and<00:17:19.440><c> those</c><00:17:19.740><c> responsibilities?</c>

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That<00:17:21.359><c> to</c><00:17:21.539><c> me</c><00:17:21.700><c> is</c><00:17:21.779><c> when</c><00:17:21.940><c> we</c><00:17:22.619><c> begin</c><00:17:22.859><c> to</c><00:17:23.079><c> look</c><00:17:23.279><c> at</c><00:17:23.420><c> each</c><00:17:23.680><c> other's</c><00:17:24.359><c> responsibilities</c><00:17:25.099><c> in</c><00:17:25.859><c> a</c>

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spiritual<00:17:26.579><c> perspective.</c>

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And<00:17:28.079><c> it</c><00:17:28.240><c> takes</c><00:17:28.500><c> it</c><00:17:28.759><c> out</c><00:17:28.940><c> of</c><00:17:29.160><c> the,</c><00:17:29.940><c> well,</c><00:17:30.039><c> what</c><00:17:30.140><c> do</c><00:17:30.240><c> I</c><00:17:30.380><c> have</c><00:17:30.599><c> to</c><00:17:30.779><c> do?</c>

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And<00:17:31.059><c> then</c><00:17:31.200><c> what</c><00:17:31.339><c> do</c><00:17:31.500><c> you</c><00:17:31.660><c> have</c><00:17:31.880><c> to</c><00:17:32.019><c> do?</c>

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And<00:17:32.259><c> it</c><00:17:32.319><c> puts</c><00:17:32.500><c> it</c><00:17:32.680><c> in</c><00:17:32.700><c> a</c><00:17:32.920><c> different</c><00:17:33.099><c> light.</c>

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Just<00:17:34.859><c> two</c><00:17:35.099><c> more.</c>

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Number<00:17:35.500><c> 11,</c><00:17:36.119><c> effective</c><00:17:36.279><c> communication</c><00:17:36.880><c> we</c><00:17:37.200><c> saw</c><00:17:37.500><c> with</c><00:17:37.880><c> the</c><00:17:38.200><c> diagram</c><00:17:38.539><c> we</c><00:17:38.839><c> used.</c>

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We<00:17:39.579><c> need</c><00:17:39.759><c> to</c><00:17:39.859><c> be</c><00:17:39.960><c> good</c><00:17:40.180><c> listeners</c><00:17:40.579><c> and</c><00:17:40.920><c> communicators.</c>

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And<00:17:42.440><c> women</c><00:17:42.539><c> are</c><00:17:42.759><c> typically</c><00:17:43.099><c> nurturers</c><00:17:43.579><c> and</c><00:17:43.779><c> seek</c><00:17:43.960><c> empathy.</c>

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Husbands<00:17:45.160><c> tend</c><00:17:45.420><c> to</c><00:17:45.559><c> be</c><00:17:45.680><c> the</c><00:17:46.000><c> problem</c><00:17:46.259><c> solvers.</c>

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And<00:17:47.420><c> lastly,</c><00:17:47.700><c> when</c><00:17:47.819><c> we</c><00:17:47.980><c> looked</c><00:17:48.140><c> at</c><00:17:48.359><c> intimacy</c><00:17:48.640><c> last</c><00:17:49.079><c> night,</c>

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husbands<00:17:49.839><c> possess</c><00:17:50.339><c> this</c><00:17:50.680><c> strong</c><00:17:51.059><c> sexual</c><00:17:51.519><c> desire,</c>

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desire<00:17:52.839><c> to</c><00:17:53.140><c> strengthen</c><00:17:53.359><c> their</c><00:17:53.640><c> affinity</c><00:17:53.940><c> and</c><00:17:54.180><c> devotion</c><00:17:54.500><c> to</c>

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their<00:17:54.880><c> wife.</c>

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And<00:17:55.460><c> see</c><00:17:55.640><c> it</c><00:17:55.799><c> that</c><00:17:56.059><c> way,</c><00:17:56.480><c> wives.</c>

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Don't<00:17:57.539><c> fear</c><00:17:57.859><c> it.</c>

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Don't<00:17:58.319><c> be</c><00:17:58.680><c> bewildered</c><00:17:59.119><c> by</c><00:17:59.380><c> it.</c>

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Don't<00:17:59.740><c> wish</c><00:17:59.940><c> it</c><00:18:00.119><c> were</c><00:18:00.319><c> different.</c>

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That's<00:18:00.940><c> what</c><00:18:01.119><c> God</c><00:18:01.319><c> has</c><00:18:01.619><c> given</c><00:18:01.839><c> to</c><00:18:02.119><c> your</c><00:18:02.480><c> husband</c><00:18:03.059><c> as</c><00:18:03.859><c> part</c><00:18:04.200><c> of</c>

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his<00:18:04.599><c> creation.</c>

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This<00:18:05.400><c> is</c><00:18:05.599><c> God's</c><00:18:06.019><c> wisdom.</c>

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And<00:18:07.319><c> it's</c><00:18:07.599><c> intended</c><00:18:07.940><c> that</c><00:18:08.220><c> that</c><00:18:08.440><c> will</c><00:18:08.720><c> drive</c><00:18:09.119><c> your</c><00:18:09.500><c> husband</c>

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to<00:18:10.380><c> you.</c>

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Because<00:18:12.319><c> that</c><00:18:12.579><c> aspect</c><00:18:12.980><c> of</c><00:18:13.180><c> the</c><00:18:13.440><c> relationship</c><00:18:14.000><c> does</c><00:18:14.339><c> such</c>

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wonderful<00:18:15.339><c> things,</c>

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especially<00:18:17.599><c> for</c><00:18:17.940><c> the</c><00:18:18.180><c> husband,</c><00:18:18.819><c> to</c><00:18:19.099><c> cement</c><00:18:19.880><c> the</c><00:18:20.519><c> bond,</c><00:18:21.160><c> the</c><00:18:21.400><c> oneness.</c>

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And<00:18:22.740><c> the</c><00:18:23.000><c> stronger</c><00:18:23.500><c> the</c><00:18:23.880><c> oneness,</c><00:18:25.079><c> the</c><00:18:25.319><c> stronger</c><00:18:25.619><c> the</c><00:18:25.859><c> ability</c><00:18:26.380><c> of</c><00:18:26.799><c> both</c><00:18:27.039><c> of</c>

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you<00:18:27.440><c> to</c><00:18:27.599><c> be</c><00:18:27.819><c> able</c><00:18:27.960><c> to</c><00:18:28.200><c> be</c><00:18:29.039><c> helpful</c><00:18:29.420><c> to</c><00:18:29.640><c> each</c><00:18:29.839><c> other.</c>

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So<00:18:31.599><c> we</c><00:18:31.839><c> turn</c><00:18:32.059><c> to</c><00:18:32.440><c> this</c><00:18:32.720><c> morning's</c><00:18:34.900><c> subject,</c><00:18:35.519><c> which</c><00:18:35.519><c> is</c><00:18:36.000><c> conflict</c><00:18:36.420><c> resolution</c><00:18:37.140><c> and</c><00:18:39.319><c> forgiveness.</c>

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And<00:18:40.839><c> we'll</c><00:18:41.240><c> just</c><00:18:41.519><c> have</c><00:18:41.619><c> a</c><00:18:41.759><c> few</c><00:18:41.839><c> more</c><00:18:42.059><c> comments</c><00:18:42.460><c> and</c><00:18:42.640><c> then</c><00:18:42.839><c> the</c>

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rest<00:18:43.099><c> of</c><00:18:43.819><c> the</c><00:18:43.900><c> course,</c>

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the<00:18:45.319><c> rest</c><00:18:45.480><c> of</c><00:18:45.700><c> the</c><00:18:45.799><c> session</c><00:18:46.000><c> this</c><00:18:46.279><c> morning</c><00:18:46.519><c> will</c><00:18:46.680><c> be</c><00:18:46.920><c> on</c><00:18:49.279><c> an</c><00:18:49.500><c> exercise,</c><00:18:50.339><c> a</c>

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couple<00:18:50.559><c> of</c><00:18:50.880><c> exercises</c><00:18:51.240><c> in</c><00:18:51.460><c> the</c><00:18:51.579><c> book.</c>

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If<00:18:52.839><c> you</c><00:18:52.960><c> take</c><00:18:53.119><c> a</c><00:18:53.180><c> look</c><00:18:53.279><c> at</c><00:18:53.400><c> your</c><00:18:53.799><c> handout</c><00:18:54.240><c> under</c><00:18:55.119><c> the</c><00:18:55.359><c> section</c>

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of<00:18:55.819><c> forgiveness,</c>

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we're<00:18:57.400><c> not</c><00:18:57.619><c> going</c><00:18:57.740><c> to</c><00:18:57.779><c> go</c><00:18:57.920><c> through</c><00:18:58.099><c> everything,</c><00:18:58.460><c> just</c><00:18:58.680><c> a</c><00:18:58.819><c> couple</c><00:18:58.980><c> of</c>

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points<00:18:59.599><c> that</c><00:19:00.160><c> we</c><00:19:00.319><c> have</c><00:19:00.500><c> found</c><00:19:00.640><c> from</c><00:19:00.819><c> our</c><00:19:01.000><c> own</c><00:19:01.380><c> personal</c><00:19:01.759><c> study.</c>

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And<00:19:03.039><c> that</c><00:19:03.200><c> is</c><00:19:03.420><c> how</c><00:19:03.720><c> important</c><00:19:04.279><c> the,</c><00:19:05.960><c> oh,</c><00:19:06.299><c> sorry,</c><00:19:06.779><c> I</c><00:19:08.299><c> knew</c><00:19:08.460><c> I</c><00:19:08.579><c> was</c><00:19:08.680><c> going</c><00:19:08.779><c> to</c>

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forget<00:19:09.079><c> this.</c>

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And<00:19:10.539><c> I</c><00:19:10.680><c> did.</c>

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So<00:19:11.339><c> that's</c><00:19:11.539><c> why</c><00:19:11.680><c> I</c><00:19:11.819><c> said</c><00:19:11.940><c> don't</c><00:19:12.220><c> forget.</c>

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So<00:19:13.720><c> back</c><00:19:13.920><c> your</c><00:19:14.119><c> mind</c><00:19:14.259><c> up</c><00:19:14.480><c> about</c><00:19:14.819><c> 90</c><00:19:15.220><c> seconds.</c>

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Don't<00:19:17.259><c> forget</c><00:19:17.539><c> the</c><00:19:17.819><c> affection.</c>

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However<00:19:20.000><c> you</c><00:19:20.400><c> choose</c><00:19:20.880><c> to</c><00:19:21.180><c> work</c><00:19:21.339><c> it</c><00:19:21.519><c> into</c><00:19:21.759><c> your</c><00:19:22.039><c> relationship,</c>

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you<00:19:23.720><c> know,</c>

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and<00:19:24.640><c> this</c><00:19:24.880><c> works</c><00:19:25.140><c> both</c><00:19:25.380><c> for</c><00:19:25.559><c> the</c><00:19:25.680><c> husbands</c><00:19:25.960><c> and</c><00:19:26.119><c> the</c><00:19:26.279><c> wives.</c>

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So<00:19:28.259><c> if</c><00:19:28.700><c> it's</c><00:19:29.059><c> full</c><00:19:29.240><c> moons,</c><00:19:29.619><c> if</c><00:19:29.640><c> it's</c><00:19:29.960><c> falling</c><00:19:30.140><c> leaves</c><00:19:30.519><c> or</c><00:19:30.700><c> it's</c>

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to<00:19:31.059><c> whatever</c><00:19:31.299><c> it</c><00:19:31.539><c> is,</c><00:19:31.900><c> don't</c><00:19:32.220><c> forget</c><00:19:32.500><c> the</c><00:19:32.799><c> affection</c>

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and<00:19:33.539><c> find</c><00:19:33.880><c> ways</c><00:19:34.319><c> to</c><00:19:34.599><c> add</c><00:19:34.759><c> the</c><00:19:35.059><c> affection,</c><00:19:36.220><c> sometimes</c><00:19:36.680><c> simultaneously,</c><00:19:37.640><c> sometimes</c><00:19:38.119><c> out</c><00:19:38.319><c> of</c>

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the<00:19:38.599><c> blue.</c>

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But,<00:19:40.099><c> you</c><00:19:40.240><c> know,</c><00:19:40.259><c> we've</c><00:19:40.579><c> talked</c><00:19:40.680><c> a</c><00:19:40.839><c> lot</c><00:19:40.960><c> about</c><00:19:41.240><c> principles</c><00:19:41.759><c> and</c><00:19:42.000><c> I,</c>

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you<00:19:42.980><c> have</c><00:19:43.140><c> the</c><00:19:43.359><c> fear</c><00:19:43.539><c> that</c><00:19:43.759><c> after</c><00:19:43.940><c> a</c><00:19:44.099><c> couple</c><00:19:44.259><c> of</c><00:19:44.400><c> days</c><00:19:44.579><c> of</c><00:19:44.740><c> this,</c><00:19:44.940><c> you</c>

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know,<00:19:45.099><c> you</c><00:19:45.299><c> think</c><00:19:45.359><c> it's</c><00:19:45.539><c> all</c><00:19:45.740><c> mechanical</c><00:19:46.180><c> and</c><00:19:46.359><c> it's</c><00:19:46.559><c> all</c><00:19:46.700><c> just</c><00:19:46.980><c> academic.</c>

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It<00:19:47.640><c> isn't,</c><00:19:48.559><c> it</c><00:19:48.779><c> isn't,</c><00:19:49.099><c> it</c><00:19:49.279><c> isn't,</c><00:19:49.539><c> it</c><00:19:49.720><c> isn't.</c>

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Remember<00:19:51.839><c> the,</c><00:19:52.380><c> remember</c><00:19:52.839><c> the</c><00:19:53.119><c> affection</c><00:19:53.460><c> and</c><00:19:53.740><c> how</c><00:19:53.960><c> to,</c><00:19:54.880><c> how</c>

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to<00:19:55.440><c> include</c><00:19:55.759><c> it.</c>

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OK,<00:19:57.660><c> thanks</c><00:19:57.920><c> for</c><00:19:58.079><c> that.</c>

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Sorry<00:19:58.460><c> for</c><00:19:58.660><c> the</c><00:19:59.940><c> momentary</c><00:20:01.920><c> disruption.</c>

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And<00:20:03.480><c> it's</c><00:20:03.700><c> probably</c><00:20:03.940><c> a</c><00:20:04.119><c> metaphor</c><00:20:04.400><c> how</c><00:20:04.759><c> for</c><00:20:04.980><c> how</c><00:20:05.099><c> often</c><00:20:05.339><c> I</c><00:20:05.599><c> forget</c><00:20:05.779><c> the</c>

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affection<00:20:06.279><c> in</c><00:20:06.480><c> our</c><00:20:06.640><c> relationship.</c>

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I'll<00:20:08.200><c> let</c><00:20:08.400><c> you</c><00:20:08.660><c> decide</c><00:20:09.019><c> that.</c>

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So,<00:20:09.940><c> but</c><00:20:11.180><c> if</c><00:20:11.380><c> you</c><00:20:11.579><c> if</c><00:20:11.779><c> you</c><00:20:11.940><c> look</c><00:20:12.039><c> at</c><00:20:12.160><c> this</c><00:20:12.319><c> subject</c><00:20:12.599><c> of</c><00:20:12.839><c> forgiveness,</c><00:20:13.259><c> you</c><00:20:14.119><c> know,</c>

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I've<00:20:14.740><c> been</c><00:20:14.960><c> impressed</c><00:20:15.299><c> in</c><00:20:15.579><c> scripture</c><00:20:15.920><c> how</c><00:20:16.440><c> the</c><00:20:17.099><c> expectation</c>

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of<00:20:17.920><c> God</c><00:20:18.099><c> is</c><00:20:18.359><c> that</c><00:20:18.500><c> we</c><00:20:18.680><c> will</c><00:20:19.079><c> forgive</c><00:20:19.500><c> immediately</c>

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when<00:20:20.940><c> someone</c><00:20:21.400><c> commits</c><00:20:21.759><c> a</c><00:20:21.920><c> personal</c><00:20:22.339><c> offense</c><00:20:22.799><c> against</c><00:20:23.220><c> us.</c>

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And<00:20:24.720><c> we</c><00:20:24.859><c> should</c><00:20:25.039><c> never</c><00:20:25.380><c> tire</c><00:20:25.940><c> of</c><00:20:26.500><c> forgiving</c><00:20:26.740><c> our</c><00:20:27.039><c> spouse.</c>

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And<00:20:27.619><c> we've</c><00:20:27.799><c> given</c><00:20:27.940><c> you</c><00:20:28.279><c> the</c><00:20:28.480><c> examples,</c><00:20:29.720><c> whether</c><00:20:29.880><c> it's</c><00:20:30.119><c> Christ</c>

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on<00:20:30.640><c> the</c><00:20:30.880><c> cross</c><00:20:31.339><c> or</c><00:20:31.579><c> it's</c><00:20:32.359><c> Stephen</c><00:20:32.759><c> or</c><00:20:33.500><c> it's</c><00:20:33.940><c> Paul</c><00:20:34.559><c> or</c><00:20:35.160><c> it's</c><00:20:35.619><c> Joseph</c><00:20:36.039><c> or</c>

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it's<00:20:36.720><c> David.</c>

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I<00:20:37.539><c> mean,</c><00:20:37.980><c> time</c><00:20:38.079><c> and</c><00:20:38.279><c> time</c><00:20:38.440><c> again,</c><00:20:38.720><c> we</c><00:20:38.859><c> see</c><00:20:39.019><c> in</c><00:20:39.259><c> scripture,</c><00:20:39.720><c> Stephen</c><00:20:40.220><c> is</c>

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being<00:20:41.140><c> stoned</c><00:20:41.740><c> to</c><00:20:41.980><c> death.</c>

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And<00:20:43.200><c> while</c><00:20:43.460><c> the</c><00:20:43.799><c> stones</c><00:20:44.119><c> are</c><00:20:44.640><c> flying</c><00:20:44.960><c> in</c><00:20:45.279><c> his</c><00:20:45.579><c> direction,</c>

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he<00:20:46.720><c> is</c><00:20:47.019><c> forgiving</c><00:20:47.480><c> the</c><00:20:48.200><c> people</c><00:20:48.720><c> who</c><00:20:49.200><c> stoned</c><00:20:49.539><c> him</c><00:20:49.859><c> and</c><00:20:50.180><c> who</c>

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sinned<00:20:50.640><c> against</c><00:20:51.000><c> him.</c>

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Our<00:20:52.079><c> Lord</c><00:20:52.279><c> is</c><00:20:52.460><c> on</c><00:20:52.680><c> the</c><00:20:52.920><c> cross,</c><00:20:53.460><c> forgiving</c><00:20:53.759><c> the</c><00:20:54.140><c> people</c><00:20:54.440><c> who</c><00:20:54.660><c> have</c><00:20:54.859><c> put</c><00:20:55.019><c> him</c><00:20:55.259><c> to</c>

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death<00:20:55.779><c> while</c><00:20:56.319><c> he</c><00:20:56.519><c> is</c><00:20:56.720><c> being</c><00:20:57.019><c> put</c><00:20:57.319><c> to</c><00:20:57.559><c> death.</c>

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Paul<00:20:59.259><c> in</c><00:20:59.440><c> Acts</c><00:20:59.660><c> chapter</c><00:21:00.039><c> 21,</c><00:21:01.319><c> you</c><00:21:01.460><c> know,</c><00:21:01.680><c> is</c><00:21:01.880><c> taken</c><00:21:02.240><c> and</c><00:21:02.759><c> beaten</c><00:21:02.980><c> to</c><00:21:03.359><c> a</c>

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pulp<00:21:03.900><c> and</c><00:21:04.180><c> left</c><00:21:04.440><c> for</c><00:21:04.779><c> dead.</c>

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And<00:21:05.039><c> if</c><00:21:05.200><c> the</c><00:21:05.400><c> Roman</c><00:21:05.660><c> soldiers</c><00:21:06.140><c> didn't</c><00:21:06.579><c> intervene</c><00:21:07.180><c> to</c><00:21:07.539><c> save</c><00:21:07.759><c> him,</c><00:21:08.019><c> he</c>

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would<00:21:08.339><c> have</c><00:21:08.559><c> died</c><00:21:08.839><c> that</c><00:21:09.160><c> day.</c>

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And<00:21:10.380><c> as</c><00:21:10.579><c> they</c><00:21:10.900><c> take</c><00:21:11.059><c> him</c><00:21:11.240><c> away</c><00:21:11.460><c> and</c><00:21:11.680><c> lead</c><00:21:11.779><c> him</c><00:21:11.920><c> up</c><00:21:12.079><c> the</c><00:21:12.299><c> steps,</c>

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he<00:21:12.779><c> says,</c><00:21:13.019><c> wait</c><00:21:13.359><c> a</c><00:21:13.460><c> minute,</c><00:21:13.559><c> I</c><00:21:13.779><c> need</c><00:21:14.000><c> to</c><00:21:14.380><c> preach</c><00:21:14.740><c> to</c><00:21:15.000><c> these</c><00:21:15.299><c> people.</c>

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About<00:21:16.480><c> the</c><00:21:16.779><c> kingdom</c><00:21:17.079><c> of</c><00:21:17.339><c> God.</c><00:21:17.839><c> Can</c><00:21:17.839><c> we</c><00:21:17.920><c> just</c><00:21:18.299><c> stop</c><00:21:18.480><c> for</c><00:21:18.759><c> a</c><00:21:18.859><c> minute?</c>

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There<00:21:20.059><c> were</c><00:21:20.279><c> no</c><00:21:20.500><c> apologies</c><00:21:21.079><c> in</c><00:21:21.380><c> any</c><00:21:21.680><c> of</c><00:21:21.859><c> those</c><00:21:22.140><c> situations.</c>

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He<00:21:24.119><c> didn't</c><00:21:24.279><c> wait</c><00:21:24.480><c> for</c><00:21:24.619><c> an</c><00:21:24.859><c> apology</c><00:21:25.279><c> and</c><00:21:25.519><c> then</c><00:21:25.700><c> address</c><00:21:26.000><c> the</c><00:21:26.259><c> people.</c>

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Stephen<00:21:26.839><c> didn't</c><00:21:27.140><c> wait</c><00:21:27.420><c> for</c><00:21:27.559><c> an</c><00:21:27.779><c> apology</c><00:21:28.160><c> before</c><00:21:28.539><c> he</c><00:21:28.819><c> forgave.</c>

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We<00:21:29.480><c> know</c><00:21:29.599><c> the</c><00:21:29.799><c> Lord</c><00:21:29.940><c> didn't</c><00:21:30.200><c> wait</c><00:21:30.460><c> for</c><00:21:30.619><c> an</c><00:21:30.779><c> apology.</c>

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So<00:21:32.319><c> remove</c><00:21:32.619><c> this</c><00:21:32.980><c> notion</c><00:21:33.420><c> that</c><00:21:33.940><c> somehow</c><00:21:34.240><c> you</c><00:21:34.460><c> have</c><00:21:34.640><c> to</c><00:21:34.880><c> wait</c>

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for<00:21:35.240><c> an</c><00:21:35.539><c> apology</c><00:21:36.140><c> before</c><00:21:37.000><c> you</c><00:21:37.180><c> can</c><00:21:37.420><c> forgive</c><00:21:37.680><c> your</c><00:21:37.920><c> spouse.</c>

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I'm<00:21:40.200><c> not</c><00:21:40.440><c> saying</c><00:21:40.619><c> apologies</c><00:21:41.140><c> are</c><00:21:41.380><c> not</c><00:21:41.700><c> helpful</c><00:21:42.119><c> and</c><00:21:42.519><c> appropriate.</c>

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But<00:21:44.519><c> don't</c><00:21:45.039><c> set</c><00:21:45.599><c> expectations</c><00:21:46.579><c> that</c><00:21:47.440><c> need</c><00:21:47.720><c> to</c><00:21:47.940><c> be</c><00:21:48.180><c> met</c><00:21:48.400><c> in</c><00:21:48.640><c> your</c><00:21:49.019><c> mind</c><00:21:49.519><c> that</c><00:21:49.839><c> God</c>

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doesn't<00:21:50.660><c> set</c><00:21:51.079><c> before</c><00:21:51.500><c> you</c><00:21:51.720><c> will</c><00:21:51.940><c> forgive</c><00:21:52.200><c> your</c><00:21:52.440><c> spouse.</c>

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This<00:21:55.099><c> doesn't</c><00:21:55.519><c> wink</c><00:21:55.900><c> at</c><00:21:56.319><c> sin.</c><00:21:56.740><c> This</c><00:21:56.900><c> doesn't</c><00:21:57.400><c> pretend</c><00:21:58.220><c> the</c>

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sin<00:21:58.700><c> doesn't</c><00:21:59.119><c> exist.</c>

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But<00:22:00.440><c> if</c><00:22:00.619><c> we</c><00:22:00.859><c> start</c><00:22:01.119><c> setting</c><00:22:01.480><c> expectations</c><00:22:02.380><c> for</c><00:22:02.660><c> each</c><00:22:02.960><c> other</c>

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that<00:22:04.240><c> I'm</c><00:22:04.380><c> not</c><00:22:04.599><c> going</c><00:22:04.779><c> to</c><00:22:04.940><c> forgive</c><00:22:05.180><c> you</c><00:22:05.519><c> until</c><00:22:05.819><c> you</c><00:22:06.079><c> do</c><00:22:08.759><c> this.</c>

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Then<00:22:10.240><c> we</c><00:22:10.380><c> got</c><00:22:10.539><c> to</c><00:22:10.700><c> start</c><00:22:10.859><c> keeping</c><00:22:11.240><c> notes.</c>

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Okay,<00:22:13.519><c> the</c><00:22:13.720><c> golf</c><00:22:14.039><c> clubs,</c><00:22:14.480><c> the</c><00:22:14.619><c> fishing</c><00:22:14.880><c> rod,</c><00:22:15.359><c> the</c><00:22:15.539><c> hairdryer,</c>

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you<00:22:17.220><c> haven't</c><00:22:17.440><c> done</c><00:22:17.519><c> what</c><00:22:17.680><c> you</c><00:22:17.859><c> need</c><00:22:18.000><c> to</c><00:22:18.119><c> on</c><00:22:18.259><c> those</c><00:22:18.480><c> issues.</c>

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Well,<00:22:20.279><c> you</c><00:22:20.460><c> haven't</c><00:22:20.660><c> done</c><00:22:20.980><c> the</c><00:22:21.380><c> one</c><00:22:21.500><c> with</c><00:22:21.720><c> the</c><00:22:21.920><c> burnt</c><00:22:22.079><c> cookies</c>

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and<00:22:22.900><c> the</c><00:22:23.119><c> dented</c><00:22:23.779><c> fender</c><00:22:24.099><c> and</c><00:22:24.440><c> whatever</c><00:22:24.680><c> it</c><00:22:25.180><c> is.</c>

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Don't<00:22:26.279><c> set</c><00:22:26.539><c> those</c><00:22:26.880><c> expectations.</c><00:22:27.740><c> Don't</c><00:22:28.019><c> set</c><00:22:28.299><c> those</c><00:22:28.599><c> parameters.</c>

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I<00:22:29.819><c> know</c><00:22:29.920><c> it's</c><00:22:30.220><c> natural</c><00:22:30.519><c> to</c><00:22:30.759><c> do,</c><00:22:32.519><c> but</c><00:22:32.799><c> it's</c><00:22:33.059><c> not</c><00:22:33.279><c> godly.</c>

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You<00:22:33.880><c> know,</c><00:22:35.640><c> Joseph's</c><00:22:36.059><c> brethren</c><00:22:36.359><c> don't</c><00:22:36.660><c> apologize</c><00:22:37.500><c> to</c><00:22:37.759><c> him</c><00:22:37.960><c> until</c><00:22:38.259><c> chapter</c><00:22:38.759><c> 50</c>

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in<00:22:40.000><c> Genesis.</c>

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They<00:22:40.599><c> finally</c><00:22:40.940><c> come</c><00:22:41.220><c> and</c><00:22:41.420><c> they</c><00:22:41.579><c> tell</c><00:22:41.660><c> him</c><00:22:41.799><c> they're</c><00:22:42.240><c> sorry</c><00:22:42.480><c> for</c>

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what<00:22:42.740><c> they</c><00:22:42.900><c> did</c><00:22:43.079><c> to</c><00:22:43.299><c> him.</c>

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He<00:22:44.519><c> had</c><00:22:44.779><c> to</c><00:22:44.900><c> have</c><00:22:45.160><c> forgiven</c><00:22:45.380><c> them</c><00:22:45.660><c> long</c><00:22:46.019><c> before</c><00:22:46.480><c> that</c><00:22:46.779><c> for</c><00:22:46.980><c> all</c>

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of<00:22:47.359><c> the</c><00:22:47.539><c> good</c><00:22:47.759><c> to</c><00:22:48.859><c> come</c><00:22:49.079><c> out</c><00:22:49.240><c> of</c><00:22:49.319><c> that</c><00:22:49.539><c> relationship.</c>

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Saul<00:22:51.980><c> is</c><00:22:52.460><c> chasing</c><00:22:52.859><c> David</c><00:22:53.240><c> around</c><00:22:53.539><c> the</c><00:22:53.799><c> countryside</c><00:22:54.240><c> and</c><00:22:54.500><c> David</c><00:22:54.779><c> is</c>

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forgiving<00:22:55.359><c> Saul</c><00:22:56.119><c> as</c><00:22:57.680><c> Saul</c><00:22:57.900><c> is</c><00:22:58.160><c> chasing</c><00:22:58.400><c> him,</c><00:22:58.579><c> trying</c><00:22:58.779><c> to</c><00:22:58.859><c> put</c>

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him<00:22:59.119><c> to</c><00:22:59.299><c> death.</c>

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You'll<00:23:01.220><c> have</c><00:23:01.380><c> a</c><00:23:01.539><c> different</c><00:23:01.880><c> marriage</c><00:23:02.279><c> entirely</c><00:23:03.039><c> if</c><00:23:03.299><c> you</c><00:23:03.440><c> can</c>

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learn<00:23:03.819><c> to</c><00:23:04.099><c> forgive</c><00:23:04.519><c> each</c><00:23:04.940><c> other</c><00:23:06.099><c> immediately,</c><00:23:08.599><c> immediately.</c>

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And<00:23:10.500><c> instead</c><00:23:10.839><c> of,</c><00:23:11.380><c> you</c><00:23:11.579><c> know,</c><00:23:12.059><c> holding</c><00:23:12.180><c> the</c><00:23:12.500><c> grudges</c><00:23:13.079><c> and</c><00:23:13.420><c> waiting</c><00:23:13.799><c> for</c>

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your<00:23:14.940><c> personal</c><00:23:15.480><c> requirements</c><00:23:16.140><c> to</c><00:23:16.420><c> be</c><00:23:16.660><c> met</c><00:23:17.019><c> before</c><00:23:18.279><c> forgiveness</c><00:23:18.900><c> is</c><00:23:19.539><c> extended.</c>

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I<00:23:21.359><c> guarantee</c><00:23:21.720><c> it</c><00:23:21.880><c> will</c><00:23:21.960><c> be</c><00:23:22.119><c> a</c><00:23:22.240><c> different</c><00:23:22.420><c> relationship.</c>

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Now,<00:23:24.279><c> again,</c><00:23:24.500><c> that</c><00:23:24.700><c> doesn't</c><00:23:25.000><c> mean</c><00:23:25.339><c> you</c><00:23:25.559><c> turn</c><00:23:25.759><c> a</c><00:23:26.019><c> blind</c><00:23:26.299><c> eye</c><00:23:26.660><c> to</c>

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the<00:23:27.160><c> sin.</c>

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That's<00:23:27.539><c> not</c><00:23:27.779><c> what</c><00:23:27.920><c> we're</c><00:23:28.160><c> saying.</c>

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But<00:23:31.779><c> forgiveness</c><00:23:32.200><c> doesn't</c><00:23:32.700><c> need</c><00:23:33.000><c> to</c><00:23:33.200><c> have</c><00:23:33.319><c> an</c><00:23:33.599><c> apology</c><00:23:34.180><c> before</c><00:23:35.720><c> it's</c>

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extended,<00:23:37.019><c> is</c><00:23:37.099><c> what</c><00:23:37.259><c> God</c><00:23:37.480><c> is</c><00:23:37.720><c> telling</c><00:23:37.859><c> us.</c>

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And<00:23:38.339><c> then</c><00:23:38.599><c> find</c><00:23:38.960><c> a</c><00:23:39.200><c> way</c><00:23:39.500><c> to</c><00:23:39.839><c> share</c><00:23:40.039><c> with</c><00:23:40.240><c> each</c><00:23:40.519><c> other</c><00:23:40.920><c> that</c><00:23:42.339><c> your</c><00:23:42.779><c> spouse</c><00:23:43.140><c> has</c>

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hurt<00:23:43.599><c> you,</c><00:23:44.859><c> has</c><00:23:45.079><c> caused</c><00:23:45.339><c> you</c><00:23:45.599><c> pain</c><00:23:45.920><c> or</c><00:23:46.220><c> suffering,</c><00:23:46.619><c> whatever</c>

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it<00:23:47.039><c> is.</c>

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But<00:23:49.500><c> the</c><00:23:50.000><c> apology</c><00:23:50.500><c> can</c><00:23:50.839><c> come</c><00:23:51.099><c> before</c><00:23:51.500><c> that.</c>

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That's<00:23:53.559><c> the</c><00:23:53.779><c> scriptural</c><00:23:54.319><c> model.</c>

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And<00:23:55.059><c> again,</c><00:23:55.299><c> if</c><00:23:55.339><c> you're</c><00:23:56.720><c> interested,</c><00:23:57.559><c> we</c><00:23:57.759><c> can</c><00:23:58.079><c> provide</c><00:23:58.359><c> the</c><00:23:59.859><c> evidence.</c>

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But<00:24:00.420><c> it's</c><00:24:00.640><c> not</c><00:24:00.799><c> a</c><00:24:01.019><c> sin</c><00:24:01.180><c> to</c><00:24:01.359><c> forgive</c><00:24:01.539><c> a</c><00:24:01.779><c> person</c><00:24:02.039><c> who</c><00:24:02.240><c> has</c><00:24:02.420><c> not</c><00:24:03.240><c> apologized</c><00:24:03.980><c> to</c><00:24:04.259><c> you.</c>

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And<00:24:04.819><c> we</c><00:24:05.019><c> all</c><00:24:05.200><c> know</c><00:24:05.319><c> it's</c><00:24:05.720><c> a</c><00:24:05.880><c> sin</c><00:24:06.220><c> not</c><00:24:06.680><c> to</c><00:24:07.019><c> forgive</c><00:24:07.559><c> those</c><00:24:09.279><c> who</c>

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have<00:24:09.799><c> sinned</c><00:24:10.019><c> against</c><00:24:10.339><c> us.</c>

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That<00:24:12.259><c> next</c><00:24:12.559><c> door</c><00:24:12.680><c> neighbor</c><00:24:12.960><c> who</c><00:24:13.259><c> sinned</c><00:24:13.519><c> against</c><00:24:13.819><c> you</c><00:24:14.019><c> last</c>

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week,<00:24:14.619><c> he</c><00:24:14.900><c> probably</c><00:24:15.380><c> will</c><00:24:15.740><c> never</c><00:24:16.019><c> apologize</c><00:24:16.799><c> for</c><00:24:16.980><c> what</c><00:24:17.140><c> he</c><00:24:17.339><c> did.</c>

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So<00:24:19.799><c> are</c><00:24:19.920><c> you</c><00:24:20.079><c> never</c><00:24:20.299><c> going</c><00:24:20.519><c> to</c><00:24:20.759><c> forgive</c><00:24:20.960><c> him?</c>

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And<00:24:22.660><c> if</c><00:24:22.819><c> you're</c><00:24:23.039><c> going</c><00:24:23.160><c> to</c><00:24:23.420><c> forgive</c><00:24:23.660><c> him,</c><00:24:25.480><c> your</c><00:24:26.119><c> spouse,</c><00:24:28.160><c> the</c>

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one<00:24:28.380><c> who's</c><00:24:28.579><c> so</c><00:24:28.839><c> important</c><00:24:29.140><c> in</c><00:24:29.259><c> your</c><00:24:29.460><c> life,</c><00:24:29.759><c> don't</c><00:24:30.140><c> treat</c><00:24:30.400><c> him</c>

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or<00:24:30.900><c> her</c><00:24:31.599><c> in</c><00:24:32.579><c> any</c><00:24:32.880><c> worse</c><00:24:33.079><c> situation.</c>

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A<00:24:36.119><c> marriage</c><00:24:36.359><c> based</c><00:24:36.680><c> upon</c><00:24:36.940><c> immediate</c><00:24:37.240><c> forgiveness</c><00:24:37.880><c> will</c><00:24:38.319><c> be</c><00:24:38.700><c> a</c>

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different<00:24:39.839><c> marriage.</c>

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So<00:24:42.319><c> there</c><00:24:42.539><c> are</c><00:24:43.039><c> additional</c><00:24:43.440><c> points</c><00:24:43.740><c> we</c><00:24:43.940><c> could</c><00:24:44.279><c> make</c><00:24:45.519><c> about</c><00:24:45.819><c> forgiveness.</c>

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But<00:24:47.220><c> to</c><00:24:47.619><c> me,</c><00:24:47.779><c> that</c><00:24:47.940><c> is</c><00:24:48.319><c> a</c><00:24:49.740><c> critical</c><00:24:50.119><c> piece</c><00:24:50.700><c> in</c><00:24:51.140><c> the</c><00:24:51.500><c> relationship.</c>

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The<00:24:53.259><c> newly</c><00:24:53.539><c> married</c><00:24:53.859><c> couple,</c><00:24:55.019><c> we</c><00:24:55.660><c> counsel</c><00:24:56.440><c> newly</c><00:24:57.000><c> married</c><00:24:57.299><c> couples,</c><00:24:57.839><c> the</c><00:24:58.019><c> ones</c><00:24:58.180><c> where</c><00:24:58.380><c> they're</c><00:24:58.559><c> already</c><00:24:58.880><c> planning</c><00:24:59.160><c> to</c>

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get<00:24:59.519><c> married</c><00:24:59.779><c> and</c><00:24:59.900><c> then</c><00:25:00.059><c> you</c><00:25:00.119><c> have</c><00:25:00.240><c> the</c><00:25:00.400><c> marriage</c><00:25:00.579><c> classes</c>

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with<00:25:01.220><c> them.</c>

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We<00:25:02.259><c> counsel</c><00:25:02.619><c> them</c><00:25:02.839><c> to</c><00:25:03.039><c> expect</c><00:25:03.460><c> to</c><00:25:03.680><c> have</c><00:25:03.819><c> to</c><00:25:04.019><c> forgive</c><00:25:04.240><c> your</c><00:25:04.559><c> spouse</c><00:25:04.839><c> over</c><00:25:05.400><c> and</c>

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over<00:25:06.039><c> and</c><00:25:06.279><c> over</c><00:25:06.619><c> again.</c>

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And<00:25:07.900><c> the</c><00:25:08.059><c> reason</c><00:25:08.339><c> for</c><00:25:08.559><c> that</c><00:25:08.700><c> is</c><00:25:08.839><c> you're</c><00:25:09.099><c> about</c><00:25:09.279><c> to</c><00:25:09.519><c> see</c><00:25:09.740><c> sins</c>

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in<00:25:10.500><c> your</c><00:25:10.759><c> spouse</c><00:25:11.140><c> and</c><00:25:11.460><c> shortcomings</c><00:25:12.019><c> and</c><00:25:12.359><c> failings</c><00:25:13.380><c> oftentimes</c><00:25:14.140><c> directed</c>

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at<00:25:15.019><c> you</c><00:25:16.039><c> over</c><00:25:16.720><c> and</c><00:25:17.000><c> over</c><00:25:17.380><c> again.</c>

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So<00:25:18.339><c> we're</c><00:25:18.480><c> not</c><00:25:18.700><c> accommodating</c><00:25:19.319><c> sin</c><00:25:19.519><c> here.</c><00:25:19.920><c> Don't</c><00:25:20.160><c> misunderstand</c><00:25:21.039><c> that.</c>

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Forgiveness<00:25:21.920><c> is</c><00:25:22.279><c> not</c><00:25:22.440><c> an</c><00:25:22.700><c> accommodation</c><00:25:23.180><c> of</c><00:25:23.500><c> sin.</c>

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Forgiveness<00:25:25.359><c> is</c><00:25:25.559><c> part</c><00:25:25.680><c> of</c><00:25:25.839><c> the</c><00:25:26.000><c> character</c><00:25:26.240><c> of</c><00:25:26.400><c> Christ</c><00:25:26.619><c> because</c><00:25:26.920><c> it</c><00:25:27.160><c> forbears,</c><00:25:28.039><c> allowing</c><00:25:28.500><c> the</c>

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person<00:25:29.099><c> to</c><00:25:29.339><c> have</c><00:25:29.539><c> time</c><00:25:29.859><c> to</c><00:25:31.259><c> change</c><00:25:31.660><c> their</c><00:25:31.920><c> character.</c>

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We<00:25:33.619><c> don't</c><00:25:33.859><c> ever</c><00:25:34.099><c> want</c><00:25:34.279><c> to</c><00:25:34.380><c> run</c><00:25:34.480><c> out</c><00:25:34.819><c> of</c><00:25:35.099><c> forgiveness</c><00:25:35.599><c> for</c><00:25:36.599><c> our</c><00:25:37.579><c> spouse.</c>

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And<00:25:40.039><c> we</c><00:25:40.119><c> know</c><00:25:40.579><c> when</c><00:25:41.440><c> we've</c><00:25:41.799><c> made</c><00:25:41.980><c> the</c><00:25:42.160><c> mistakes,</c><00:25:42.579><c> as</c><00:25:42.779><c> we</c><00:25:42.960><c> talked</c><00:25:43.160><c> about</c>

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yesterday,<00:25:43.900><c> that's</c><00:25:44.160><c> when</c><00:25:44.299><c> we</c><00:25:44.480><c> need</c><00:25:44.700><c> the</c><00:25:44.940><c> forgiveness</c><00:25:45.299><c> and</c><00:25:45.539><c> the</c><00:25:45.880><c> understanding</c><00:25:46.240><c> of</c>

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our<00:25:47.299><c> spouse</c><00:25:47.940><c> the</c><00:25:49.480><c> most</c><00:25:49.859><c> in</c><00:25:50.160><c> some</c><00:25:50.359><c> respects.</c>

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There's<00:25:52.099><c> a</c><00:25:52.240><c> couple</c><00:25:52.460><c> of</c><00:25:52.960><c> principles</c><00:25:53.319><c> you</c><00:25:53.480><c> can</c><00:25:53.660><c> put</c><00:25:53.859><c> side</c><00:25:54.160><c> by</c><00:25:54.440><c> side.</c>

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This<00:25:56.140><c> can</c><00:25:56.339><c> be</c><00:25:56.599><c> true</c><00:25:56.700><c> in</c><00:25:56.839><c> a</c><00:25:56.920><c> marriage</c><00:25:57.160><c> relationship.</c><00:25:57.700><c> It</c><00:25:57.819><c> can</c>

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be<00:25:58.220><c> true</c><00:25:58.420><c> in</c><00:26:00.180><c> relationships</c><00:26:01.980><c> within</c><00:26:02.299><c> the</c><00:26:02.519><c> Ecclesia.</c>

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But<00:26:03.079><c> if</c><00:26:03.279><c> you</c><00:26:03.279><c> just</c><00:26:03.400><c> go</c><00:26:03.539><c> back</c><00:26:03.720><c> to</c><00:26:03.859><c> the</c><00:26:04.039><c> Sermon</c><00:26:04.220><c> on</c><00:26:04.380><c> the</c><00:26:04.519><c> Mount,</c><00:26:05.660><c> in</c><00:26:05.859><c> Matthew</c><00:26:06.240><c> 5,</c><00:26:06.759><c> on</c><00:26:06.920><c> the</c><00:26:07.039><c> run</c><00:26:07.220><c> hand,</c><00:26:07.500><c> Christ</c><00:26:07.960><c> tells</c><00:26:08.500><c> me</c><00:26:09.240><c> that</c><00:26:09.859><c> before</c><00:26:10.339><c> I</c>

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bring<00:26:10.980><c> my</c><00:26:11.420><c> sacrifice</c><00:26:12.059><c> to</c><00:26:12.319><c> the</c><00:26:12.559><c> altar,</c>

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and<00:26:13.799><c> as</c><00:26:13.960><c> Brother</c><00:26:14.279><c> Roberts</c><00:26:14.599><c> defined</c><00:26:15.059><c> that,</c><00:26:15.420><c> before</c><00:26:15.680><c> I</c><00:26:15.960><c> come</c><00:26:16.099><c> to</c>

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the<00:26:16.440><c> memorial</c><00:26:16.880><c> meeting</c><00:26:17.339><c> in</c><00:26:17.740><c> our</c><00:26:17.960><c> day</c><00:26:18.119><c> and</c><00:26:18.200><c> age,</c>

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if<00:26:19.819><c> I</c><00:26:20.220><c> have</c><00:26:20.819><c> committed</c><00:26:21.319><c> an</c><00:26:21.720><c> offense</c><00:26:22.180><c> against</c><00:26:22.839><c> my</c><00:26:23.359><c> spouse,</c><00:26:25.720><c> then</c><00:26:25.859><c> I</c>

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need<00:26:26.220><c> to</c><00:26:26.440><c> go</c><00:26:26.859><c> and</c><00:26:27.180><c> apologize</c><00:26:27.720><c> to</c><00:26:27.940><c> her</c><00:26:28.279><c> and</c><00:26:28.500><c> be</c><00:26:28.839><c> reconciled</c><00:26:29.339><c> to</c>

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her<00:26:30.079><c> or</c><00:26:30.740><c> my</c><00:26:31.039><c> brother,</c><00:26:31.500><c> whatever</c><00:26:31.740><c> the</c><00:26:31.960><c> case</c><00:26:32.119><c> may</c><00:26:32.359><c> be.</c>

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So<00:26:32.819><c> if</c><00:26:33.079><c> I</c><00:26:33.519><c> am</c><00:26:33.720><c> the</c><00:26:33.980><c> one</c><00:26:34.619><c> causing</c><00:26:35.299><c> the</c><00:26:35.640><c> offense,</c><00:26:36.079><c> it's</c><00:26:36.400><c> my</c><00:26:36.740><c> responsibility</c><00:26:37.559><c> to</c><00:26:37.799><c> go</c>

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and<00:26:38.140><c> be</c><00:26:38.460><c> reconciled.</c>

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And<00:26:40.079><c> then</c><00:26:40.259><c> he</c><00:26:40.380><c> says</c><00:26:40.599><c> in</c><00:26:40.799><c> chapter</c><00:26:41.259><c> 6,</c><00:26:42.140><c> if</c><00:26:42.160><c> someone</c><00:26:42.539><c> has</c><00:26:42.839><c> committed</c><00:26:43.220><c> a</c><00:26:43.599><c> sin</c>

00:26:43.779 --> 00:26:49.900
against<00:26:44.380><c> me,</c><00:26:46.240><c> then</c><00:26:46.519><c> it's</c><00:26:46.940><c> on</c><00:26:47.259><c> my</c><00:26:47.559><c> shoulders,</c><00:26:48.119><c> it's</c><00:26:48.500><c> my</c><00:26:48.740><c> responsibility</c><00:26:49.539><c> to</c>

00:26:49.900 --> 00:26:51.359
forgive<00:26:50.279><c> them.</c>

00:26:52.420 --> 00:26:56.839
So<00:26:52.660><c> you</c><00:26:52.759><c> see,</c><00:26:53.119><c> just</c><00:26:53.180><c> in</c><00:26:53.339><c> the</c><00:26:53.500><c> Sermon</c><00:26:53.700><c> on</c><00:26:53.920><c> the</c><00:26:54.079><c> Mount,</c><00:26:56.180><c> Christ's</c>

00:26:56.839 --> 00:27:04.480
two<00:26:57.279><c> simple</c><00:26:57.740><c> principles</c><00:26:58.619><c> make</c><00:27:00.539><c> it</c><00:27:01.119><c> impossible</c><00:27:02.099><c> for</c><00:27:02.640><c> a</c><00:27:02.980><c> husband</c><00:27:03.420><c> and</c><00:27:03.799><c> wife</c><00:27:04.140><c> to</c>

00:27:04.480 --> 00:27:08.700
remain<00:27:04.940><c> unreconciled</c><00:27:05.920><c> if</c><00:27:06.140><c> they</c><00:27:06.380><c> will</c><00:27:06.720><c> uphold</c><00:27:07.140><c> these</c><00:27:07.460><c> principles.</c>

00:27:09.740 --> 00:27:13.880
So<00:27:10.299><c> Christ</c><00:27:10.640><c> doesn't</c><00:27:11.079><c> allow</c><00:27:11.720><c> for,</c><00:27:12.200><c> under</c><00:27:12.500><c> these</c><00:27:12.920><c> situations,</c>

00:27:14.019 --> 00:27:17.240
it's<00:27:14.299><c> okay</c><00:27:14.599><c> to</c><00:27:14.779><c> be</c><00:27:15.000><c> unreconciled</c><00:27:15.799><c> to</c><00:27:15.940><c> your</c><00:27:16.140><c> spouse.</c>

00:27:17.519 --> 00:27:21.220
He<00:27:17.720><c> says</c><00:27:17.940><c> if</c><00:27:18.099><c> you</c><00:27:18.460><c> cause</c><00:27:18.779><c> the</c><00:27:19.099><c> offense,</c><00:27:19.559><c> go</c><00:27:19.700><c> and</c><00:27:19.859><c> be</c><00:27:20.160><c> reconciled.</c><00:27:20.759><c> If</c><00:27:20.980><c> they</c>

00:27:21.220 --> 00:27:24.400
have<00:27:21.519><c> offended</c><00:27:21.980><c> you,</c><00:27:22.579><c> forgive</c><00:27:23.000><c> them.</c>

00:27:26.539 --> 00:27:28.640
You<00:27:26.759><c> know,</c><00:27:26.759><c> you</c><00:27:26.900><c> need</c><00:27:27.019><c> to</c><00:27:27.279><c> remember,</c><00:27:27.740><c> Christ</c><00:27:28.039><c> has</c><00:27:28.279><c> done</c><00:27:28.400><c> all</c>

00:27:28.640 --> 00:27:31.839
he<00:27:28.940><c> can</c><00:27:29.299><c> to</c><00:27:29.579><c> reconcile</c><00:27:30.039><c> us</c><00:27:30.279><c> to</c><00:27:30.440><c> the</c><00:27:30.680><c> Father,</c><00:27:31.019><c> even</c><00:27:31.220><c> to</c><00:27:31.400><c> the</c><00:27:31.519><c> giving</c><00:27:31.660><c> of</c>

00:27:31.839 --> 00:27:32.500
his<00:27:32.000><c> life.</c>

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So<00:27:33.400><c> it's</c><00:27:34.119><c> tragic</c><00:27:34.680><c> that</c><00:27:35.019><c> a</c><00:27:35.200><c> husband</c><00:27:35.400><c> and</c><00:27:35.640><c> wife</c><00:27:35.799><c> would</c><00:27:35.960><c> ever</c><00:27:36.180><c> find</c><00:27:36.380><c> themselves</c><00:27:36.859><c> in</c>

00:27:37.019 --> 00:27:41.319
a<00:27:37.180><c> position</c><00:27:37.539><c> where</c><00:27:37.900><c> they</c><00:27:39.000><c> are</c><00:27:39.200><c> not</c><00:27:39.460><c> reconciled.</c>

00:27:41.460 --> 00:27:44.740
And<00:27:41.660><c> it</c><00:27:41.819><c> doesn't</c><00:27:42.039><c> matter</c><00:27:42.519><c> if</c><00:27:43.440><c> I</c><00:27:43.700><c> have</c><00:27:43.900><c> committed</c><00:27:44.180><c> the</c><00:27:44.440><c> offense</c>

00:27:44.740 --> 00:27:47.619
or<00:27:44.880><c> my</c><00:27:45.180><c> spouse</c><00:27:45.460><c> has</c><00:27:45.680><c> committed</c><00:27:45.940><c> the</c><00:27:46.200><c> offense</c><00:27:46.740><c> against</c><00:27:47.339><c> me.</c>

00:27:47.619 --> 00:27:52.839
I<00:27:47.779><c> have</c><00:27:48.000><c> a</c><00:27:48.319><c> responsibility</c><00:27:48.960><c> to</c><00:27:51.279><c> reconcile</c><00:27:52.039><c> and</c><00:27:52.259><c> to</c><00:27:52.420><c> make</c><00:27:52.539><c> the</c>

00:27:52.839 --> 00:27:54.759
situation<00:27:53.480><c> right.</c>

00:27:58.359 --> 00:28:03.500
Okay,<00:27:58.859><c> so</c><00:27:59.000><c> that</c><00:27:59.160><c> will</c><00:27:59.380><c> bring</c><00:27:59.500><c> us</c><00:27:59.799><c> to</c><00:28:01.099><c> one</c><00:28:02.759><c> more,</c><00:28:03.079><c> sorry.</c>

00:28:03.880 --> 00:28:06.559
I<00:28:04.279><c> like</c><00:28:04.480><c> this</c><00:28:04.720><c> quote</c><00:28:04.859><c> from</c><00:28:05.039><c> Brother</c><00:28:05.259><c> Roberts</c><00:28:05.539><c> on</c><00:28:05.799><c> forbearance.</c><00:28:06.380><c> I'm</c><00:28:06.480><c> going</c>

00:28:06.559 --> 00:28:08.799
to<00:28:06.660><c> take</c><00:28:06.799><c> the</c><00:28:06.960><c> time</c><00:28:07.119><c> to</c><00:28:07.299><c> read</c><00:28:07.500><c> through</c><00:28:07.720><c> it.</c><00:28:07.980><c> I'm</c><00:28:08.119><c> not</c><00:28:08.299><c> sure</c><00:28:08.460><c> it's</c><00:28:08.660><c> in</c>

00:28:08.799 --> 00:28:10.039
your<00:28:09.019><c> notes.</c>

00:28:11.920 --> 00:28:14.779
Brother<00:28:12.180><c> Roberts</c><00:28:12.480><c> writes,</c><00:28:12.880><c> and</c><00:28:13.079><c> I</c><00:28:13.200><c> think</c><00:28:13.380><c> it</c><00:28:13.559><c> has</c><00:28:14.240><c> a</c><00:28:14.420><c> special</c>

00:28:14.779 --> 00:28:16.920
application<00:28:15.400><c> in</c><00:28:15.859><c> the</c><00:28:16.039><c> marriage</c><00:28:16.259><c> relationship,</c>

00:28:16.920 --> 00:28:21.579
we<00:28:18.059><c> ought</c><00:28:18.319><c> not</c><00:28:18.779><c> to</c><00:28:19.019><c> take</c><00:28:19.220><c> notice</c><00:28:19.980><c> of</c><00:28:20.640><c> everything.</c>

00:28:22.299 --> 00:28:26.799
We<00:28:22.420><c> ought</c><00:28:22.619><c> not</c><00:28:22.900><c> to</c><00:28:23.259><c> speak</c><00:28:23.519><c> of</c><00:28:23.859><c> every</c><00:28:24.160><c> weakness</c><00:28:24.539><c> we</c><00:28:24.920><c> see</c><00:28:25.400><c> because</c><00:28:26.000><c> the</c><00:28:26.339><c> flesh</c><00:28:26.559><c> is</c>

00:28:26.799 --> 00:28:28.720
a<00:28:26.920><c> weak</c><00:28:27.140><c> thing</c><00:28:27.500><c> at</c><00:28:27.799><c> best.</c>

00:28:29.259 --> 00:28:34.420
Let<00:28:29.539><c> things</c><00:28:29.960><c> slide.</c><00:28:31.400><c> Unless</c><00:28:31.680><c> there</c><00:28:31.880><c> is</c><00:28:32.039><c> a</c><00:28:32.200><c> breach</c><00:28:32.359><c> compromising</c><00:28:33.079><c> the</c><00:28:33.319><c> authority</c><00:28:33.539><c> of</c><00:28:33.759><c> Christ</c><00:28:34.180><c> or</c>

00:28:34.420 --> 00:28:36.880
dishonoring<00:28:35.000><c> and</c><00:28:35.240><c> weakening</c><00:28:35.599><c> to</c><00:28:35.779><c> the</c><00:28:35.980><c> truth,</c>

00:28:36.960 --> 00:28:40.480
there<00:28:37.140><c> are</c><00:28:37.519><c> thousand</c><00:28:38.099><c> little</c><00:28:38.619><c> weaknesses</c><00:28:39.200><c> and</c><00:28:39.700><c> faults</c><00:28:40.119><c> that</c>

00:28:40.480 --> 00:28:43.720
do<00:28:40.779><c> not</c><00:28:41.079><c> amount</c><00:28:41.440><c> to</c><00:28:41.839><c> deliberate</c><00:28:42.220><c> or</c><00:28:42.619><c> intended</c><00:28:43.000><c> violation</c><00:28:43.539><c> of</c>

00:28:43.720 --> 00:28:44.460
Christ's<00:28:44.180><c> law,</c>

00:28:44.460 --> 00:28:48.480
which<00:28:45.299><c> the</c><00:28:45.559><c> individual</c><00:28:45.960><c> is</c><00:28:46.220><c> himself</c><00:28:46.599><c> sorry</c><00:28:47.019><c> for.</c><00:28:47.680><c> If</c><00:28:47.839><c> you</c><00:28:48.059><c> take</c><00:28:48.299><c> him</c>

00:28:48.480 --> 00:28:53.900
to<00:28:48.740><c> task,</c><00:28:49.240><c> you</c><00:28:49.400><c> destroy</c><00:28:49.740><c> his</c><00:28:50.039><c> sorrow</c><00:28:50.380><c> and</c><00:28:50.660><c> in</c><00:28:50.819><c> kindled</c><00:28:51.119><c> resentment,</c><00:28:52.440><c> and</c><00:28:52.640><c> evil</c><00:28:52.779><c> is</c><00:28:53.079><c> done.</c>

00:28:54.700 --> 00:28:57.259
The<00:28:54.920><c> best</c><00:28:55.160><c> thing</c><00:28:55.339><c> is</c><00:28:55.559><c> to</c><00:28:55.720><c> forbear.</c><00:28:56.279><c> This</c><00:28:56.460><c> is</c><00:28:56.700><c> the</c><00:28:56.859><c> lesson</c><00:28:57.079><c> of</c>

00:28:57.259 --> 00:28:57.819
the<00:28:57.420><c> apostle.</c>

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Forbear<00:28:58.700><c> one</c><00:28:58.920><c> another</c><00:28:59.160><c> in</c><00:28:59.380><c> love,</c><00:29:00.339><c> forgiving</c><00:29:00.660><c> one</c><00:29:00.960><c> another</c><00:29:01.200><c> in</c>

00:29:01.380 --> 00:29:05.740
love,<00:29:01.839><c> even</c><00:29:01.980><c> as</c><00:29:02.240><c> God</c><00:29:03.380><c> for</c><00:29:03.579><c> Christ's</c><00:29:04.000><c> sake</c><00:29:04.200><c> hath</c><00:29:04.460><c> forgiven</c><00:29:04.720><c> you.</c>

00:29:05.799 --> 00:29:08.740
If<00:29:06.019><c> we</c><00:29:06.259><c> ourselves</c><00:29:06.819><c> were</c><00:29:07.059><c> to</c><00:29:07.220><c> be</c><00:29:07.440><c> measured</c><00:29:07.759><c> by</c><00:29:08.019><c> the</c><00:29:08.339><c> standard</c>

00:29:08.740 --> 00:29:12.420
we<00:29:09.059><c> may</c><00:29:09.299><c> be</c><00:29:09.680><c> disposed</c><00:29:10.059><c> to</c><00:29:10.279><c> apply</c><00:29:10.519><c> to</c><00:29:10.779><c> others,</c><00:29:11.619><c> we</c><00:29:11.940><c> should</c><00:29:12.099><c> be</c>

00:29:12.420 --> 00:29:13.559
found<00:29:12.720><c> greatly</c><00:29:13.180><c> wanting.</c>

00:29:13.559 --> 00:29:18.539
We<00:29:14.680><c> have</c><00:29:14.960><c> to</c><00:29:15.099><c> be</c><00:29:15.200><c> forgiven</c><00:29:15.579><c> much</c><00:29:16.200><c> and</c><00:29:16.700><c> must</c><00:29:16.920><c> forgive.</c><00:29:18.460><c> There</c>

00:29:18.539 --> 00:29:23.200
are<00:29:18.720><c> many</c><00:29:19.039><c> derelictions</c><00:29:19.700><c> of</c><00:29:19.960><c> duty,</c><00:29:20.839><c> oversights,</c><00:29:21.700><c> faults,</c><00:29:22.240><c> offenses,</c><00:29:22.880><c> it</c>

00:29:23.200 --> 00:29:24.000
may<00:29:23.440><c> be,</c>

00:29:24.319 --> 00:29:28.039
but<00:29:24.539><c> God</c><00:29:24.779><c> is</c><00:29:25.099><c> pleased</c><00:29:25.380><c> to</c><00:29:25.660><c> pass</c><00:29:25.980><c> by</c><00:29:26.460><c> at</c><00:29:26.960><c> our</c><00:29:27.220><c> request</c><00:29:27.740><c> through</c>

00:29:28.039 --> 00:29:32.799
Christ,<00:29:29.119><c> and</c><00:29:29.319><c> we</c><00:29:29.519><c> have</c><00:29:29.700><c> to</c><00:29:29.920><c> cultivate</c><00:29:30.420><c> a</c><00:29:30.799><c> similar</c><00:29:31.099><c> disposition</c><00:29:31.799><c> toward</c><00:29:32.099><c> those</c><00:29:32.559><c> who</c>

00:29:32.799 --> 00:29:34.220
err<00:29:32.980><c> through</c><00:29:33.259><c> weakness.</c>

00:29:34.640 --> 00:29:38.200
And<00:29:34.819><c> when</c><00:29:34.900><c> we</c><00:29:35.180><c> develop</c><00:29:35.500><c> this</c><00:29:35.880><c> sympathy</c><00:29:36.420><c> towards</c><00:29:36.880><c> our</c><00:29:37.200><c> spouse,</c>

00:29:38.440 --> 00:29:40.880
it<00:29:38.940><c> puts</c><00:29:39.220><c> things</c><00:29:39.619><c> in</c><00:29:39.740><c> a</c><00:29:39.940><c> different</c><00:29:40.119><c> light</c><00:29:40.319><c> altogether.</c>

00:29:40.880 --> 00:29:44.579
Because<00:29:41.740><c> think</c><00:29:42.099><c> back</c><00:29:42.359><c> through</c><00:29:42.579><c> those</c><00:29:42.819><c> times</c><00:29:43.279><c> in</c><00:29:43.559><c> your</c><00:29:43.799><c> relationship</c><00:29:44.339><c> when</c>

00:29:44.579 --> 00:29:50.099
you<00:29:44.720><c> didn't,</c><00:29:45.519><c> one</c><00:29:46.019><c> or</c><00:29:46.079><c> both</c><00:29:46.279><c> of</c><00:29:46.440><c> you</c><00:29:46.559><c> didn't</c><00:29:46.859><c> extend</c><00:29:47.299><c> the</c><00:29:47.559><c> forgiveness,</c><00:29:48.059><c> didn't</c><00:29:48.259><c> extend</c><00:29:48.700><c> the</c><00:29:48.920><c> forbearance.</c>

00:29:50.740 --> 00:29:56.180
You<00:29:50.940><c> know,</c><00:29:50.940><c> you</c><00:29:51.119><c> decide,</c><00:29:51.519><c> well,</c><00:29:51.680><c> I'm</c><00:29:51.900><c> going</c><00:29:52.059><c> to</c><00:29:52.140><c> make</c><00:29:52.279><c> a</c><00:29:52.539><c> big</c><00:29:52.720><c> issue</c><00:29:53.019><c> out</c><00:29:53.160><c> of</c><00:29:53.299><c> this,</c><00:29:54.819><c> and</c><00:29:54.980><c> off</c><00:29:55.200><c> you</c><00:29:55.359><c> go,</c><00:29:55.500><c> and</c><00:29:55.619><c> you</c><00:29:55.740><c> make</c><00:29:55.880><c> a</c>

00:29:56.180 --> 00:29:57.079
big<00:29:56.359><c> issue</c><00:29:56.700><c> out</c><00:29:56.839><c> of</c><00:29:56.940><c> it,</c>

00:29:57.099 --> 00:30:02.099
and<00:29:57.299><c> the</c><00:29:57.500><c> oneness</c><00:29:58.240><c> is</c><00:29:59.140><c> hurt,</c><00:29:59.500><c> and</c><00:29:59.640><c> the</c><00:29:59.819><c> relationship</c><00:30:00.440><c> is</c><00:30:00.880><c> hurt,</c><00:30:01.759><c> and</c>

00:30:02.099 --> 00:30:05.319
there's,<00:30:02.519><c> you</c><00:30:02.640><c> know,</c><00:30:02.799><c> hours</c><00:30:03.180><c> that</c><00:30:03.519><c> pass,</c><00:30:03.900><c> or</c><00:30:04.160><c> days</c><00:30:04.519><c> that</c><00:30:04.880><c> pass,</c><00:30:05.200><c> and</c>

00:30:05.319 --> 00:30:06.819
maybe<00:30:05.500><c> sometimes</c><00:30:05.960><c> weeks</c><00:30:06.339><c> that</c><00:30:06.660><c> pass.</c>

00:30:06.819 --> 00:30:10.880
I<00:30:06.900><c> mean,</c><00:30:07.539><c> the</c><00:30:07.819><c> flesh</c><00:30:08.200><c> will</c><00:30:08.640><c> rule</c><00:30:08.980><c> as</c><00:30:09.440><c> long</c><00:30:09.720><c> as</c><00:30:09.940><c> we</c><00:30:10.220><c> allow</c><00:30:10.460><c> it</c><00:30:10.680><c> to</c>

00:30:10.880 --> 00:30:12.559
rule<00:30:11.140><c> in</c><00:30:11.359><c> a</c><00:30:11.559><c> relationship.</c>

00:30:13.140 --> 00:30:15.640
You<00:30:13.240><c> know,</c><00:30:13.400><c> don't</c><00:30:13.539><c> let</c><00:30:13.720><c> that</c><00:30:13.980><c> happen.</c><00:30:14.519><c> Use</c><00:30:14.880><c> these</c><00:30:15.200><c> principles</c>

00:30:15.640 --> 00:30:18.519
that<00:30:15.819><c> we've</c><00:30:15.980><c> been</c><00:30:16.119><c> looking</c><00:30:16.380><c> at</c><00:30:16.640><c> in,</c><00:30:17.480><c> you</c><00:30:17.619><c> know,</c><00:30:17.880><c> Ephesians</c><00:30:18.220><c> 5</c>

00:30:18.519 --> 00:30:21.359
and<00:30:18.640><c> the</c><00:30:18.759><c> other</c><00:30:18.960><c> places</c><00:30:19.220><c> this</c><00:30:19.480><c> weekend</c><00:30:19.819><c> to</c><00:30:20.119><c> prevent</c><00:30:20.460><c> that.</c>

00:30:21.819 --> 00:30:24.380
Yes,<00:30:22.099><c> the</c><00:30:22.339><c> flesh</c><00:30:22.480><c> needs</c><00:30:22.759><c> to</c><00:30:22.940><c> be</c><00:30:23.119><c> humbled</c><00:30:23.539><c> when</c><00:30:23.839><c> mistakes</c><00:30:24.220><c> have</c>

00:30:24.380 --> 00:30:28.420
been<00:30:24.579><c> made,</c><00:30:24.920><c> but</c><00:30:25.119><c> be</c><00:30:25.339><c> willing</c><00:30:25.559><c> to</c><00:30:26.779><c> take</c><00:30:27.099><c> those</c><00:30:27.380><c> steps.</c>

00:30:29.619 --> 00:30:36.420
Okay,<00:30:30.240><c> so</c><00:30:30.460><c> if</c><00:30:30.579><c> you</c><00:30:30.700><c> will</c><00:30:30.960><c> turn</c><00:30:31.380><c> with</c><00:30:31.619><c> me</c><00:30:31.900><c> to</c><00:30:33.599><c> page</c><00:30:34.500><c> 60.</c>

00:30:52.720 --> 00:30:58.180
Again,<00:30:53.180><c> as</c><00:30:53.339><c> you</c><00:30:53.480><c> read</c><00:30:53.640><c> through</c><00:30:53.839><c> the</c><00:30:54.019><c> book</c><00:30:54.200><c> on</c><00:30:54.440><c> some</c><00:30:54.640><c> of</c><00:30:54.759><c> the</c><00:30:55.119><c> side</c><00:30:55.380><c> panels,</c><00:30:55.960><c> you</c><00:30:55.980><c> may</c><00:30:56.480><c> see</c><00:30:56.819><c> things</c><00:30:57.140><c> that</c><00:30:57.339><c> are</c><00:30:58.059><c> a</c>

00:30:58.180 --> 00:30:58.859
bit<00:30:58.359><c> questionable,</c>

00:30:58.859 --> 00:31:02.880
so<00:30:59.380><c> I</c><00:31:00.619><c> read</c><00:31:00.799><c> through</c><00:31:01.019><c> some</c><00:31:01.180><c> of</c><00:31:01.299><c> the</c><00:31:01.460><c> section</c><00:31:01.680><c> on</c><00:31:01.960><c> forgiveness,</c>

00:31:03.140 --> 00:31:09.859
and<00:31:03.140><c> I</c><00:31:03.480><c> would</c><00:31:03.799><c> not</c><00:31:05.079><c> suggest</c><00:31:05.539><c> you</c><00:31:05.799><c> use</c><00:31:06.119><c> the</c><00:31:06.380><c> book</c><00:31:06.720><c> other</c><00:31:07.160><c> than</c><00:31:07.380><c> the</c><00:31:07.640><c> exercises</c><00:31:08.079><c> we're</c><00:31:08.400><c> doing</c><00:31:08.779><c> to</c><00:31:09.519><c> get</c><00:31:09.660><c> a</c>

00:31:09.859 --> 00:31:12.799
full<00:31:10.039><c> understanding</c><00:31:10.559><c> of</c><00:31:10.799><c> the</c><00:31:10.900><c> idea</c><00:31:11.180><c> of</c><00:31:11.400><c> biblical</c><00:31:11.640><c> forgiveness.</c>

00:31:13.539 --> 00:31:20.039
But<00:31:14.220><c> they</c><00:31:14.900><c> like</c><00:31:15.059><c> to</c><00:31:15.400><c> identify</c><00:31:15.799><c> on</c><00:31:16.819><c> page</c><00:31:17.019><c> 59,</c><00:31:17.779><c> sorry,</c><00:31:18.079><c> under</c><00:31:18.079><c> the</c><00:31:18.519><c> section,</c><00:31:18.880><c> reactions</c><00:31:19.480><c> to</c><00:31:19.880><c> hurt.</c>

00:31:20.140 --> 00:31:25.440
There's<00:31:20.380><c> two</c><00:31:21.359><c> ways</c><00:31:21.980><c> a</c><00:31:22.319><c> person</c><00:31:22.660><c> may</c><00:31:22.980><c> react</c><00:31:23.440><c> to</c><00:31:23.960><c> being</c><00:31:24.420><c> hurt.</c>

00:31:25.599 --> 00:31:30.819
One,<00:31:26.480><c> they're</c><00:31:26.799><c> calling</c><00:31:27.339><c> the</c><00:31:27.920><c> rhino,</c><00:31:29.839><c> and</c><00:31:30.079><c> their</c><00:31:30.299><c> other</c><00:31:30.579><c> one,</c>

00:31:30.980 --> 00:31:33.420
they're<00:31:31.119><c> calling</c><00:31:31.660><c> the</c><00:31:32.240><c> hedgehog.</c>

00:31:34.240 --> 00:31:37.779
Now,<00:31:34.500><c> one</c><00:31:34.680><c> of</c><00:31:34.819><c> those</c><00:31:35.259><c> attacks</c><00:31:36.140><c> when</c><00:31:36.660><c> they're</c><00:31:37.019><c> hurt,</c><00:31:37.460><c> and</c><00:31:37.640><c> the</c>

00:31:37.779 --> 00:31:40.460
other<00:31:38.019><c> one</c><00:31:38.440><c> hides</c><00:31:38.880><c> and</c><00:31:39.059><c> runs</c><00:31:39.359><c> for</c><00:31:39.660><c> cover.</c>

00:31:40.599 --> 00:31:44.079
And<00:31:40.799><c> I'll</c><00:31:40.960><c> let</c><00:31:41.059><c> you</c><00:31:41.339><c> figure</c><00:31:41.559><c> out</c><00:31:41.859><c> which</c><00:31:42.779><c> animal</c><00:31:43.240><c> applies</c><00:31:43.799><c> to</c>

00:31:44.079 --> 00:31:46.720
which<00:31:44.700><c> aspect</c><00:31:45.279><c> of</c><00:31:45.559><c> the</c><00:31:45.700><c> response.</c>

00:31:47.220 --> 00:31:59.579
So,<00:31:48.240><c> your</c><00:31:48.579><c> first</c><00:31:49.079><c> assignment,</c><00:31:51.119><c> as</c><00:31:51.380><c> you</c><00:31:52.119><c> flip</c><00:31:52.400><c> the</c><00:31:52.660><c> page,</c><00:31:53.920><c> is</c><00:31:54.059><c> to</c><00:31:54.279><c> take</c><00:31:54.500><c> one</c><00:31:54.839><c> minute</c><00:31:55.160><c> and</c><00:31:55.500><c> talk</c><00:31:55.700><c> over</c><00:31:55.980><c> with</c><00:31:56.220><c> your</c><00:31:56.839><c> spouse,</c><00:31:58.579><c> are</c><00:31:58.740><c> you</c><00:31:59.200><c> a</c>

00:31:59.579 --> 00:32:03.720
rhino<00:32:00.319><c> or</c><00:32:01.339><c> are</c><00:32:01.720><c> you</c><00:32:02.279><c> a</c><00:32:02.559><c> hedgehog?</c>

00:32:15.279 --> 00:32:22.740
Okay,<00:32:16.359><c> and</c><00:32:16.740><c> I</c><00:32:16.740><c> suppose</c><00:32:17.240><c> it's</c><00:32:17.759><c> also</c><00:32:18.240><c> appropriate</c><00:32:18.779><c> to</c><00:32:19.019><c> sometimes</c><00:32:19.519><c> be</c><00:32:20.099><c> a</c><00:32:20.759><c> rhino</c><00:32:21.200><c> or</c>

00:32:22.740 --> 00:32:26.119
a<00:32:23.319><c> hedgehog.</c>

00:32:28.799 --> 00:32:34.940
But<00:32:29.359><c> now</c><00:32:29.920><c> we're</c><00:32:30.079><c> going</c><00:32:30.279><c> to</c><00:32:30.559><c> get</c><00:32:31.180><c> into</c><00:32:31.400><c> the</c><00:32:31.619><c> more</c><00:32:33.180><c> challenging</c><00:32:33.700><c> aspects.</c>

00:32:35.980 --> 00:32:38.680
The<00:32:36.119><c> second</c><00:32:36.380><c> exercise,</c><00:32:37.119><c> this</c><00:32:37.299><c> one</c><00:32:37.400><c> we're</c><00:32:37.579><c> going</c><00:32:37.640><c> to</c><00:32:37.720><c> take</c><00:32:37.859><c> about</c><00:32:38.400><c> 10</c>

00:32:38.680 --> 00:32:45.420
minutes<00:32:39.019><c> or</c><00:32:39.339><c> so,</c><00:32:41.819><c> it's</c><00:32:42.259><c> on</c><00:32:42.480><c> page</c><00:32:42.740><c> 61,</c><00:32:43.440><c> it's</c><00:32:43.599><c> called</c><00:32:43.779><c> Handling</c><00:32:44.460><c> Anger.</c>

00:32:45.420 --> 00:32:49.440
So,<00:32:46.359><c> the</c><00:32:46.519><c> purpose</c><00:32:46.799><c> of</c><00:32:46.980><c> this</c><00:32:47.220><c> exercise</c><00:32:47.900><c> is</c><00:32:48.220><c> to</c><00:32:48.380><c> help</c><00:32:48.500><c> you</c><00:32:48.779><c> recognize</c><00:32:49.200><c> how</c>

00:32:49.440 --> 00:32:54.000
each<00:32:49.720><c> of</c><00:32:49.859><c> you</c><00:32:50.019><c> typically</c><00:32:50.519><c> responds</c><00:32:51.319><c> when</c><00:32:51.680><c> you</c><00:32:51.980><c> feel</c><00:32:52.319><c> hurt</c><00:32:53.019><c> and</c>

00:32:54.000 --> 00:32:56.559
how<00:32:54.279><c> you</c><00:32:54.599><c> display</c><00:32:55.200><c> your</c><00:32:55.720><c> anger.</c>

00:32:56.799 --> 00:33:01.740
So,<00:32:57.019><c> you're</c><00:32:57.240><c> going</c><00:32:57.259><c> to</c><00:32:57.279><c> go</c><00:32:57.559><c> down</c><00:32:57.839><c> this</c><00:32:58.200><c> list</c><00:32:58.819><c> and</c><00:32:59.259><c> place</c><00:32:59.500><c> a</c><00:32:59.700><c> number</c><00:32:59.940><c> between</c><00:33:00.420><c> 0</c><00:33:00.940><c> and</c><00:33:01.180><c> 4</c>

00:33:01.740 --> 00:33:08.859
in<00:33:01.980><c> the</c><00:33:02.220><c> box</c><00:33:03.039><c> against</c><00:33:04.099><c> each</c><00:33:04.579><c> statement</c><00:33:05.160><c> in</c><00:33:05.759><c> terms</c><00:33:06.140><c> of</c><00:33:06.400><c> how</c><00:33:06.859><c> true</c><00:33:07.700><c> this</c><00:33:08.440><c> is</c>

00:33:08.859 --> 00:33:10.299
for<00:33:09.099><c> you.</c>

00:33:10.599 --> 00:33:14.380
So,<00:33:11.299><c> if</c><00:33:11.500><c> you</c><00:33:11.740><c> will</c><00:33:12.000><c> keep</c><00:33:12.200><c> the</c><00:33:12.519><c> piece</c><00:33:12.759><c> at</c><00:33:13.099><c> any</c><00:33:13.460><c> price,</c><00:33:13.900><c> this</c><00:33:14.099><c> is</c>

00:33:14.380 --> 00:33:23.099
number<00:33:14.720><c> 1,</c><00:33:16.059><c> always,</c><00:33:17.460><c> no</c><00:33:17.680><c> matter</c><00:33:18.019><c> what's</c><00:33:18.480><c> happening,</c><00:33:19.279><c> under</c><00:33:19.619><c> every</c><00:33:20.099><c> circumstance,</c><00:33:22.339><c> that</c><00:33:22.640><c> would</c><00:33:22.819><c> be</c><00:33:22.980><c> a</c>

00:33:23.099 --> 00:33:24.339
number<00:33:23.299><c> 4.</c>

00:33:24.779 --> 00:33:28.140
If<00:33:25.240><c> you</c><00:33:25.539><c> never</c><00:33:25.920><c> keep</c><00:33:26.380><c> the</c><00:33:26.619><c> piece,</c><00:33:27.039><c> that</c><00:33:27.339><c> would</c><00:33:27.559><c> be</c><00:33:27.740><c> a</c><00:33:27.859><c> 0.</c>

00:33:28.140 --> 00:33:45.220
So,<00:33:30.019><c> first,</c><00:33:30.680><c> go</c><00:33:30.960><c> through</c><00:33:31.319><c> the</c><00:33:31.640><c> 20</c><00:33:32.240><c> items,</c><00:33:33.460><c> answer</c><00:33:33.839><c> them</c><00:33:34.119><c> for</c><00:33:34.359><c> yourself,</c><00:33:37.140><c> score</c><00:33:37.619><c> your</c><00:33:38.180><c> result,</c><00:33:40.660><c> and</c><00:33:40.920><c> then</c><00:33:41.180><c> once</c><00:33:41.400><c> you've</c><00:33:41.680><c> done</c><00:33:41.940><c> that,</c><00:33:42.559><c> turn</c><00:33:42.880><c> the</c><00:33:43.160><c> page</c><00:33:43.759><c> and</c><00:33:44.619><c> take</c><00:33:45.079><c> a</c>

00:33:45.220 --> 00:33:51.539
look<00:33:45.339><c> at</c><00:33:45.660><c> the</c><00:33:47.400><c> section</c><00:33:47.920><c> on</c><00:33:48.400><c> page</c><00:33:48.660><c> 62</c><00:33:49.319><c> in</c><00:33:49.819><c> the</c><00:33:49.940><c> red</c><00:33:50.200><c> box</c><00:33:50.819><c> for</c><00:33:51.220><c> the</c>

00:33:51.539 --> 00:33:53.559
discussion<00:33:51.940><c> that</c><00:33:52.259><c> should</c><00:33:52.640><c> flow</c><00:33:52.920><c> from</c><00:33:53.180><c> that.</c>

00:33:53.559 --> 00:33:58.059
So,<00:33:54.420><c> we'll</c><00:33:54.559><c> take</c><00:33:54.819><c> about</c><00:33:55.160><c> 10</c><00:33:55.380><c> minutes</c><00:33:55.720><c> or</c><00:33:56.019><c> so</c><00:33:56.460><c> for</c><00:33:56.680><c> this</c><00:33:56.960><c> one.</c>

00:34:16.539 --> 00:34:21.159
Okay,<00:34:17.300><c> hopefully</c><00:34:17.639><c> you'll</c><00:34:17.880><c> see</c><00:34:18.039><c> how</c><00:34:19.039><c> that</c><00:34:19.500><c> exercise</c><00:34:20.039><c> will</c><00:34:20.360><c> dovetail</c><00:34:20.739><c> into</c><00:34:20.980><c> the</c>

00:34:21.159 --> 00:34:22.420
next<00:34:21.400><c> one.</c>

00:34:23.639 --> 00:34:32.980
I'm<00:34:24.199><c> going</c><00:34:24.760><c> to</c><00:34:24.860><c> ask</c><00:34:25.000><c> you</c><00:34:25.260><c> to</c><00:34:25.519><c> pause</c><00:34:26.559><c> your</c><00:34:27.860><c> thinking</c><00:34:28.380><c> about</c><00:34:30.380><c> hurt</c><00:34:32.460><c> and</c>

00:34:32.980 --> 00:34:35.340
resolving<00:34:33.480><c> hurt</c><00:34:34.159><c> and</c><00:34:34.579><c> reconciliation.</c>

00:34:35.659 --> 00:34:40.739
There's<00:34:35.880><c> a</c><00:34:36.039><c> point</c><00:34:36.179><c> I</c><00:34:36.699><c> forgot</c><00:34:37.019><c> to</c><00:34:37.300><c> mention</c><00:34:38.280><c> this</c><00:34:39.559><c> morning</c><00:34:40.119><c> that</c>

00:34:40.739 --> 00:34:43.099
I<00:34:40.980><c> didn't</c><00:34:41.219><c> plan</c><00:34:41.500><c> to</c><00:34:41.719><c> mention</c><00:34:41.940><c> last</c><00:34:42.280><c> night</c><00:34:42.519><c> because</c><00:34:42.719><c> I</c><00:34:42.900><c> hadn't</c>

00:34:43.099 --> 00:34:45.420
been<00:34:43.360><c> aware</c><00:34:43.579><c> of</c><00:34:43.699><c> it,</c><00:34:43.820><c> but</c><00:34:43.960><c> a</c><00:34:44.119><c> brother</c><00:34:44.260><c> brought</c><00:34:44.460><c> it</c><00:34:44.599><c> to</c><00:34:44.719><c> my</c><00:34:44.940><c> attention</c><00:34:45.219><c> and</c>

00:34:45.420 --> 00:34:47.420
I<00:34:45.719><c> appreciate</c><00:34:46.119><c> him</c><00:34:46.539><c> doing</c><00:34:46.880><c> so.</c>

00:34:47.420 --> 00:34:50.679
But<00:34:48.119><c> we</c><00:34:48.340><c> spent</c><00:34:48.599><c> a</c><00:34:48.760><c> lot</c><00:34:48.900><c> of</c><00:34:49.039><c> time</c><00:34:49.219><c> last</c><00:34:49.599><c> night,</c><00:34:50.179><c> so</c><00:34:50.360><c> I'm</c><00:34:50.440><c> taking</c>

00:34:50.679 --> 00:34:53.119
you<00:34:50.880><c> now</c><00:34:51.099><c> back</c><00:34:51.380><c> to</c><00:34:51.559><c> last</c><00:34:51.860><c> night's</c><00:34:52.300><c> discussion</c><00:34:52.539><c> on</c><00:34:52.800><c> intimacy.</c>

00:34:53.239 --> 00:34:56.340
I<00:34:53.400><c> apologize</c><00:34:53.840><c> for</c><00:34:54.039><c> not</c><00:34:54.199><c> having</c><00:34:54.539><c> done</c><00:34:54.739><c> this</c><00:34:54.960><c> a</c><00:34:55.099><c> few</c><00:34:55.179><c> minutes</c><00:34:55.400><c> ago.</c>

00:34:56.900 --> 00:34:58.860
The<00:34:57.059><c> ladies</c><00:34:57.199><c> will</c><00:34:57.400><c> have</c><00:34:57.539><c> no</c><00:34:57.760><c> trouble</c><00:34:58.019><c> handling</c><00:34:58.320><c> this</c><00:34:58.599><c> because</c>

00:34:58.860 --> 00:35:01.280
they<00:34:59.039><c> can</c><00:34:59.199><c> handle</c><00:34:59.420><c> about</c><00:34:59.679><c> five</c><00:35:00.000><c> things</c><00:35:00.340><c> at</c><00:35:00.579><c> once,</c><00:35:00.940><c> so</c><00:35:01.059><c> fellas,</c>

00:35:01.579 --> 00:35:03.039
bear<00:35:01.619><c> with</c><00:35:01.880><c> me</c><00:35:02.079><c> if</c><00:35:02.239><c> you</c><00:35:02.360><c> would.</c>

00:35:03.679 --> 00:35:07.920
But<00:35:03.940><c> we</c><00:35:04.400><c> spent</c><00:35:04.559><c> a</c><00:35:04.699><c> lot</c><00:35:04.800><c> of</c><00:35:04.960><c> time</c><00:35:05.079><c> talking</c><00:35:05.380><c> about</c><00:35:05.960><c> the</c><00:35:07.219><c> danger</c>

00:35:07.920 --> 00:35:13.900
your<00:35:09.400><c> husband</c><00:35:10.079><c> faces</c><00:35:10.699><c> and</c><00:35:11.219><c> the</c><00:35:11.420><c> area</c><00:35:11.760><c> of</c><00:35:12.039><c> physical</c><00:35:12.719><c> intimacy.</c>

00:35:14.219 --> 00:35:18.739
There's<00:35:14.739><c> also</c><00:35:15.079><c> a</c><00:35:15.320><c> danger</c><00:35:15.800><c> that</c><00:35:16.219><c> the</c><00:35:16.440><c> wife</c><00:35:16.820><c> faces</c><00:35:17.440><c> in</c><00:35:18.380><c> the</c><00:35:18.519><c> area</c>

00:35:18.739 --> 00:35:20.940
of<00:35:19.059><c> emotional</c><00:35:19.760><c> intimacy.</c>

00:35:21.539 --> 00:35:27.239
She<00:35:21.699><c> needs</c><00:35:22.099><c> to</c><00:35:22.340><c> be</c><00:35:22.559><c> receiving</c><00:35:23.219><c> and</c><00:35:25.199><c> her</c><00:35:25.440><c> needs</c><00:35:25.679><c> need</c><00:35:26.340><c> to</c><00:35:26.559><c> be</c><00:35:26.820><c> met</c><00:35:27.039><c> in</c>

00:35:27.239 --> 00:35:31.519
this<00:35:27.480><c> area</c><00:35:27.840><c> of</c><00:35:28.239><c> emotional</c><00:35:29.079><c> connection</c><00:35:29.739><c> with</c><00:35:30.119><c> her</c><00:35:30.320><c> husband</c><00:35:30.820><c> in</c>

00:35:31.519 --> 00:35:34.719
much<00:35:31.760><c> the</c><00:35:32.019><c> same</c><00:35:32.199><c> way</c><00:35:32.500><c> that</c><00:35:32.739><c> the</c><00:35:32.960><c> husband</c><00:35:33.239><c> has</c><00:35:33.780><c> the</c><00:35:34.360><c> need</c><00:35:34.539><c> for</c>

00:35:34.719 --> 00:35:37.719
the<00:35:34.900><c> physical</c><00:35:35.219><c> aspect</c><00:35:35.659><c> to</c><00:35:35.860><c> be</c><00:35:36.039><c> felt</c><00:35:36.300><c> and</c><00:35:37.119><c> to</c><00:35:37.380><c> be</c><00:35:37.539><c> met.</c>

00:35:37.719 --> 00:35:40.460
So,<00:35:38.239><c> husbands,</c><00:35:38.380><c> we</c><00:35:38.400><c> need</c><00:35:38.599><c> to</c><00:35:38.679><c> be</c><00:35:38.820><c> aware</c><00:35:38.980><c> of</c><00:35:39.119><c> the</c><00:35:39.260><c> fact</c><00:35:39.460><c> that</c><00:35:39.639><c> we</c>

00:35:40.460 --> 00:35:46.179
put<00:35:40.719><c> our</c><00:35:41.079><c> wives</c><00:35:41.739><c> in</c><00:35:42.300><c> a</c><00:35:42.699><c> difficult</c><00:35:43.260><c> situation</c><00:35:44.219><c> if</c><00:35:45.239><c> we</c><00:35:45.559><c> are</c><00:35:45.800><c> not</c>

00:35:46.179 --> 00:35:51.360
fulfilling<00:35:46.900><c> their</c><00:35:47.679><c> needs</c><00:35:48.400><c> for</c><00:35:49.360><c> an</c><00:35:49.679><c> emotional</c><00:35:50.500><c> connection</c>

00:35:51.360 --> 00:35:52.900
with<00:35:51.719><c> us.</c>

00:35:53.719 --> 00:36:02.179
And<00:35:53.960><c> that,</c><00:35:54.639><c> I</c><00:35:54.840><c> think,</c><00:35:55.460><c> is</c><00:35:55.659><c> significant</c><00:35:56.219><c> enough</c><00:35:56.599><c> and</c><00:35:56.780><c> important</c><00:35:57.119><c> enough</c><00:35:57.340><c> that</c><00:35:57.519><c> it</c><00:35:57.739><c> should</c><00:35:57.860><c> have</c><00:35:58.000><c> been</c><00:35:58.179><c> mentioned</c><00:35:58.380><c> last</c><00:35:58.760><c> night</c><00:35:58.960><c> because</c><00:35:59.360><c> it's</c><00:36:00.539><c> an</c><00:36:00.719><c> area</c><00:36:00.980><c> that</c><00:36:01.179><c> will</c><00:36:01.400><c> get</c><00:36:01.780><c> a</c>

00:36:02.179 --> 00:36:06.219
wife<00:36:02.400><c> in</c><00:36:02.800><c> trouble</c><00:36:03.239><c> and,</c><00:36:04.920><c> husbands,</c><00:36:04.940><c> we</c><00:36:05.139><c> can't</c><00:36:05.559><c> say</c><00:36:05.820><c> we</c><00:36:05.980><c> don't</c>

00:36:06.219 --> 00:36:06.900
bear<00:36:06.420><c> that</c><00:36:06.639><c> responsibility.</c>

00:36:06.900 --> 00:36:10.699
So<00:36:07.579><c> just</c><00:36:08.000><c> be</c><00:36:08.260><c> aware</c><00:36:08.599><c> of</c><00:36:08.840><c> that</c><00:36:09.539><c> sensitivity.</c>

00:36:10.800 --> 00:36:14.679
Again,<00:36:11.159><c> it's</c><00:36:11.320><c> how</c><00:36:11.539><c> God</c><00:36:11.800><c> created</c><00:36:12.139><c> us</c><00:36:12.400><c> differently,</c><00:36:12.980><c> and</c><00:36:13.800><c> in</c><00:36:13.900><c> both</c><00:36:14.119><c> cases</c><00:36:14.539><c> it</c>

00:36:14.679 --> 00:36:17.139
can<00:36:14.940><c> lead</c><00:36:15.159><c> to</c><00:36:16.400><c> difficulties.</c>

00:36:17.619 --> 00:36:20.940
Either<00:36:17.920><c> in</c><00:36:18.099><c> the</c><00:36:18.260><c> emotional</c><00:36:18.619><c> side</c><00:36:18.940><c> for</c><00:36:19.659><c> the</c><00:36:19.840><c> wife</c><00:36:19.960><c> or</c><00:36:20.199><c> the</c><00:36:20.340><c> physical</c><00:36:20.679><c> side</c>

00:36:20.940 --> 00:36:24.159
for<00:36:21.139><c> the</c><00:36:21.260><c> man,</c><00:36:21.579><c> they</c><00:36:21.780><c> can</c><00:36:21.960><c> both</c><00:36:22.300><c> end</c><00:36:22.760><c> up</c><00:36:22.920><c> in</c><00:36:23.059><c> a</c><00:36:23.139><c> bad</c><00:36:23.260><c> place.</c>

00:36:24.699 --> 00:36:32.019
So<00:36:25.000><c> the</c><00:36:25.599><c> next</c><00:36:26.119><c> exercise,</c><00:36:27.119><c> if</c><00:36:27.260><c> you'll</c><00:36:27.460><c> turn</c><00:36:27.619><c> to</c><00:36:27.780><c> page</c><00:36:27.940><c> 64,</c><00:36:31.079><c> this</c>

00:36:32.019 --> 00:36:35.659
is<00:36:32.179><c> what</c><00:36:32.300><c> we</c><00:36:32.460><c> will</c><00:36:32.679><c> spend</c><00:36:32.900><c> the</c><00:36:33.079><c> rest</c><00:36:33.280><c> of</c><00:36:33.519><c> this</c><00:36:33.820><c> morning's</c><00:36:34.400><c> session</c><00:36:34.579><c> on.</c>

00:36:38.039 --> 00:36:40.420
Identifying<00:36:38.840><c> unresolved</c><00:36:39.480><c> hurt.</c>

00:36:41.940 --> 00:36:46.719
This<00:36:42.099><c> exercise</c><00:36:43.059><c> concentrates</c><00:36:43.920><c> particularly</c><00:36:44.619><c> on</c><00:36:45.059><c> identifying</c><00:36:45.800><c> the</c><00:36:46.360><c> areas</c>

00:36:46.719 --> 00:36:50.780
of<00:36:47.079><c> hurt</c><00:36:47.559><c> and</c><00:36:48.920><c> seeking</c><00:36:49.219><c> to</c><00:36:49.539><c> understand</c><00:36:50.000><c> each</c><00:36:50.360><c> other's</c>

00:36:50.780 --> 00:36:52.039
feelings<00:36:51.099><c> better.</c>

00:36:53.780 --> 00:36:57.039
There's<00:36:54.079><c> a</c><00:36:54.159><c> subsequent</c><00:36:54.780><c> homework</c><00:36:55.440><c> assignment</c><00:36:56.059><c> that</c><00:36:56.440><c> we'll</c>

00:36:57.039 --> 00:36:59.559
talk<00:36:57.320><c> about,</c><00:36:57.659><c> but</c><00:36:57.760><c> we</c><00:36:57.920><c> won't</c><00:36:58.059><c> be</c><00:36:58.260><c> doing</c><00:36:58.440><c> in</c><00:36:58.599><c> this</c><00:36:58.820><c> session.</c>

00:36:59.579 --> 00:37:02.820
So<00:37:00.059><c> the</c><00:37:00.239><c> instructions</c><00:37:00.739><c> are,</c><00:37:01.099><c> try</c><00:37:01.320><c> to</c><00:37:01.500><c> identify</c><00:37:01.940><c> your</c><00:37:02.179><c> partner's</c><00:37:02.719><c> hurt.</c>

00:37:02.900 --> 00:37:06.320
Think<00:37:03.139><c> about</c><00:37:03.420><c> ways</c><00:37:03.880><c> in</c><00:37:04.539><c> which</c><00:37:04.739><c> you</c><00:37:05.199><c> have</c><00:37:05.440><c> hurt</c><00:37:05.559><c> your</c><00:37:05.920><c> partner,</c>

00:37:06.539 --> 00:37:11.119
your<00:37:06.800><c> spouse,</c><00:37:08.320><c> and</c><00:37:08.539><c> affected</c><00:37:08.920><c> your</c><00:37:09.239><c> marriage</c><00:37:09.860><c> that</c><00:37:10.300><c> have</c><00:37:10.559><c> not</c>

00:37:11.119 --> 00:37:14.460
been<00:37:11.739><c> resolved</c><00:37:12.460><c> between</c><00:37:13.159><c> you.</c>

00:37:15.300 --> 00:37:17.480
Think<00:37:15.519><c> back</c><00:37:15.780><c> to</c><00:37:15.920><c> when</c><00:37:16.019><c> you</c><00:37:16.179><c> were</c><00:37:16.320><c> going</c><00:37:16.519><c> out,</c><00:37:17.099><c> when</c><00:37:17.139><c> you</c><00:37:17.300><c> were</c>

00:37:17.480 --> 00:37:20.360
courting<00:37:17.860><c> the</c><00:37:18.179><c> earlier</c><00:37:18.480><c> times</c><00:37:18.760><c> of</c><00:37:18.940><c> your</c><00:37:19.119><c> marriage,</c><00:37:19.960><c> as</c><00:37:20.159><c> well</c>

00:37:20.360 --> 00:37:21.940
as<00:37:20.500><c> the</c><00:37:20.679><c> recent</c><00:37:20.920><c> times.</c>

00:37:22.940 --> 00:37:26.159
Some<00:37:23.159><c> of</c><00:37:23.300><c> the</c><00:37:23.400><c> questions</c><00:37:23.739><c> to</c><00:37:24.039><c> ask,</c><00:37:24.300><c> what</c><00:37:24.519><c> have</c><00:37:24.760><c> I</c><00:37:25.039><c> failed</c><00:37:25.239><c> to</c><00:37:25.519><c> do</c><00:37:25.780><c> that</c><00:37:25.920><c> I</c>

00:37:26.159 --> 00:37:26.719
should<00:37:26.280><c> be</c><00:37:26.500><c> doing?</c>

00:37:26.719 --> 00:37:30.960
What<00:37:27.179><c> have</c><00:37:27.360><c> I</c><00:37:27.559><c> done</c><00:37:27.900><c> or</c><00:37:28.500><c> am</c><00:37:28.840><c> I</c><00:37:29.019><c> doing</c><00:37:29.260><c> that</c><00:37:29.440><c> I</c><00:37:29.599><c> should</c><00:37:29.840><c> not</c><00:37:30.079><c> do?</c>

00:37:31.179 --> 00:37:34.380
Where<00:37:31.400><c> have</c><00:37:31.619><c> I</c><00:37:31.860><c> failed</c><00:37:32.039><c> to</c><00:37:32.280><c> meet</c><00:37:32.420><c> my</c><00:37:33.119><c> spouse's</c><00:37:33.920><c> needs?</c>

00:37:34.659 --> 00:37:37.420
What<00:37:34.860><c> have</c><00:37:35.059><c> I</c><00:37:35.340><c> said</c><00:37:35.519><c> that</c><00:37:35.719><c> has</c><00:37:35.900><c> been</c><00:37:36.179><c> hurtful?</c>

00:37:37.619 --> 00:37:41.880
What<00:37:37.820><c> have</c><00:37:38.019><c> I</c><00:37:38.199><c> left</c><00:37:38.480><c> unsaid</c><00:37:39.420><c> that</c><00:37:39.719><c> could</c><00:37:40.960><c> have</c><00:37:41.239><c> shown</c><00:37:41.460><c> love</c>

00:37:41.880 --> 00:37:42.780
and<00:37:42.239><c> encouragement?</c>

00:37:43.219 --> 00:37:45.940
And<00:37:43.400><c> you</c><00:37:43.539><c> can</c><00:37:43.760><c> add</c><00:37:43.960><c> additional</c><00:37:44.400><c> questions</c><00:37:44.920><c> as</c><00:37:45.219><c> they</c><00:37:45.480><c> apply</c><00:37:45.760><c> to</c>

00:37:45.940 --> 00:37:47.360
your<00:37:46.119><c> own</c><00:37:46.280><c> situation.</c>

00:37:48.780 --> 00:37:53.380
Don't<00:37:49.340><c> make</c><00:37:49.900><c> excuses</c><00:37:50.719><c> or</c><00:37:51.980><c> blame</c><00:37:52.199><c> your</c><00:37:52.480><c> partner.</c>

00:37:54.019 --> 00:37:58.079
So<00:37:54.460><c> as</c><00:37:54.900><c> an</c><00:37:55.119><c> example,</c><00:37:56.619><c> I</c><00:37:56.659><c> know</c><00:37:56.820><c> I</c><00:37:57.039><c> criticized</c><00:37:57.500><c> you</c><00:37:57.719><c> in</c><00:37:57.840><c> front</c><00:37:57.940><c> of</c>

00:37:58.079 --> 00:37:58.940
the<00:37:58.199><c> children</c><00:37:58.460><c> yesterday,</c>

00:37:59.019 --> 00:38:01.320
but<00:37:59.139><c> I</c><00:37:59.280><c> wouldn't</c><00:37:59.500><c> have</c><00:37:59.699><c> done</c><00:37:59.900><c> so</c><00:38:00.159><c> if</c><00:38:00.260><c> you</c><00:38:00.440><c> hadn't</c><00:38:00.659><c> made</c><00:38:00.880><c> us</c><00:38:01.099><c> 20</c>

00:38:01.320 --> 00:38:02.739
minutes<00:38:01.659><c> late.</c>

00:38:03.679 --> 00:38:06.860
What<00:38:03.920><c> should</c><00:38:04.139><c> have</c><00:38:04.300><c> been</c><00:38:04.500><c> said</c><00:38:04.679><c> is</c><00:38:04.880><c> I</c><00:38:05.019><c> hurt</c><00:38:05.219><c> you</c><00:38:05.420><c> by</c><00:38:05.719><c> criticizing</c><00:38:06.199><c> you</c><00:38:06.480><c> in</c><00:38:06.619><c> front</c><00:38:06.699><c> of</c>

00:38:06.860 --> 00:38:07.800
the<00:38:07.000><c> children</c><00:38:07.280><c> yesterday.</c>

00:38:07.940 --> 00:38:13.300
It<00:38:08.099><c> was</c><00:38:08.380><c> unkind</c><00:38:08.760><c> of</c><00:38:08.980><c> me,</c><00:38:09.679><c> and</c><00:38:10.579><c> I</c><00:38:11.019><c> apologize</c><00:38:11.559><c> for</c><00:38:11.739><c> having</c><00:38:11.980><c> done</c><00:38:12.260><c> so.</c>

00:38:13.820 --> 00:38:16.199
I<00:38:14.019><c> know</c><00:38:14.199><c> I</c><00:38:14.360><c> was</c><00:38:14.559><c> grumpy</c><00:38:14.820><c> and</c><00:38:15.000><c> rude</c><00:38:15.139><c> towards</c><00:38:15.440><c> you</c><00:38:15.639><c> last</c><00:38:15.960><c> night,</c>

00:38:16.219 --> 00:38:19.219
but<00:38:16.340><c> you</c><00:38:16.480><c> don't</c><00:38:16.659><c> understand</c><00:38:17.159><c> what</c><00:38:17.480><c> intense</c><00:38:17.739><c> pressure</c><00:38:18.300><c> I've</c>

00:38:19.219 --> 00:38:21.199
been<00:38:19.340><c> under</c><00:38:19.539><c> at</c><00:38:19.760><c> work</c><00:38:19.920><c> recently.</c>

00:38:21.440 --> 00:38:24.320
With<00:38:21.960><c> proper</c><00:38:22.300><c> response,</c><00:38:22.920><c> it</c><00:38:23.000><c> was</c><00:38:23.199><c> selfish</c><00:38:23.619><c> and</c><00:38:23.820><c> insensitive</c>

00:38:24.320 --> 00:38:27.019
of<00:38:24.440><c> me</c><00:38:24.719><c> to</c><00:38:24.880><c> be</c><00:38:25.099><c> rude</c><00:38:25.360><c> and</c><00:38:25.659><c> grumpy</c><00:38:25.920><c> towards</c><00:38:26.239><c> you</c><00:38:26.460><c> last</c><00:38:26.780><c> night.</c>

00:38:27.019 --> 00:38:29.760
I<00:38:27.199><c> am</c><00:38:27.460><c> sorry</c><00:38:27.860><c> to</c><00:38:28.340><c> have</c><00:38:28.539><c> done</c><00:38:28.739><c> so.</c>

00:38:30.099 --> 00:38:33.380
So<00:38:30.260><c> the</c><00:38:30.400><c> first</c><00:38:30.579><c> thing</c><00:38:30.739><c> you</c><00:38:30.860><c> will</c><00:38:31.059><c> do</c><00:38:31.179><c> on</c><00:38:31.440><c> page</c><00:38:31.659><c> 65</c><00:38:32.300><c> is</c><00:38:32.860><c> write</c><00:38:33.059><c> a</c>

00:38:33.380 --> 00:38:36.139
list<00:38:33.639><c> of</c><00:38:33.900><c> the</c><00:38:34.139><c> things</c><00:38:34.380><c> that</c><00:38:34.679><c> come</c><00:38:34.840><c> to</c><00:38:35.139><c> mind,</c>

00:38:36.219 --> 00:38:39.239
and<00:38:36.500><c> the</c><00:38:36.780><c> encouragement</c><00:38:37.179><c> is</c><00:38:37.659><c> to</c><00:38:37.840><c> be</c><00:38:38.079><c> specific.</c>

00:38:39.559 --> 00:38:48.139
Now,<00:38:39.820><c> on</c><00:38:40.039><c> page</c><00:38:40.320><c> 65,</c><00:38:41.219><c> these</c><00:38:41.500><c> are</c><00:38:41.820><c> ways</c><00:38:42.219><c> you</c><00:38:43.300><c> have</c><00:38:43.800><c> hurt</c><00:38:44.300><c> your</c><00:38:45.119><c> spouse,</c><00:38:46.940><c> not</c><00:38:47.139><c> what</c><00:38:47.300><c> they've</c><00:38:47.539><c> done</c><00:38:47.699><c> to</c><00:38:47.940><c> you.</c>

00:38:48.139 --> 00:38:51.840
These<00:38:48.420><c> are</c><00:38:48.639><c> ways</c><00:38:48.840><c> that</c><00:38:49.079><c> you</c><00:38:49.739><c> have</c><00:38:50.019><c> hurt</c><00:38:50.440><c> your</c><00:38:50.880><c> spouse.</c>

00:38:52.519 --> 00:38:56.300
Once<00:38:52.699><c> you've</c><00:38:52.960><c> done</c><00:38:53.159><c> that,</c><00:38:54.300><c> independent,</c><00:38:55.440><c> identify</c><00:38:55.880><c> the</c><00:38:56.099><c> ways</c>

00:38:56.300 --> 00:38:59.079
in<00:38:56.460><c> which</c><00:38:56.619><c> you</c><00:38:56.800><c> have</c><00:38:56.920><c> been</c><00:38:57.219><c> hurt</c><00:38:57.440><c> by</c><00:38:57.699><c> your</c><00:38:58.000><c> spouse.</c>

00:38:59.639 --> 00:39:02.239
The<00:38:59.800><c> cause</c><00:38:59.980><c> of</c><00:39:00.159><c> the</c><00:39:00.260><c> hurt</c><00:39:00.360><c> could</c><00:39:00.539><c> be</c><00:39:00.739><c> recent</c><00:39:01.099><c> or</c><00:39:01.360><c> a</c><00:39:01.440><c> long</c><00:39:01.659><c> time</c><00:39:01.900><c> ago.</c>

00:39:02.260 --> 00:39:04.739
Your<00:39:02.500><c> partner,</c><00:39:02.940><c> your</c><00:39:03.119><c> spouse,</c><00:39:03.639><c> sorry,</c><00:39:04.059><c> might</c><00:39:04.159><c> or</c><00:39:04.300><c> might</c><00:39:04.500><c> not</c>

00:39:04.739 --> 00:39:06.719
have<00:39:04.880><c> been</c><00:39:05.079><c> aware</c><00:39:05.420><c> of</c><00:39:05.619><c> the</c><00:39:05.820><c> hurting.</c>

00:39:07.039 --> 00:39:09.059
It<00:39:07.199><c> could</c><00:39:07.340><c> have</c><00:39:07.500><c> been</c><00:39:07.599><c> one</c><00:39:07.800><c> incident</c><00:39:08.239><c> or</c><00:39:08.500><c> it</c><00:39:08.619><c> could</c><00:39:08.719><c> have</c><00:39:08.880><c> been</c>

00:39:09.059 --> 00:39:10.340
repeated<00:39:09.380><c> many</c><00:39:09.719><c> times.</c>

00:39:10.500 --> 00:39:14.440
Be<00:39:10.840><c> specific</c><00:39:11.619><c> in</c><00:39:12.820><c> what</c><00:39:13.079><c> you</c><00:39:13.460><c> describe.</c>

00:39:15.579 --> 00:39:20.980
Now,<00:39:16.380><c> in</c><00:39:16.599><c> this</c><00:39:16.880><c> case,</c><00:39:17.559><c> hopefully</c><00:39:17.940><c> you</c><00:39:18.199><c> have</c><00:39:18.619><c> forgiven</c><00:39:19.179><c> your</c><00:39:19.739><c> spouse.</c>

00:39:21.800 --> 00:39:26.860
You're<00:39:21.800><c> not</c><00:39:22.000><c> holding</c><00:39:22.360><c> the</c><00:39:22.820><c> grudge,</c><00:39:23.440><c> but</c><00:39:23.579><c> it</c><00:39:23.760><c> is</c><00:39:24.000><c> still</c><00:39:24.440><c> helpful</c><00:39:25.059><c> to</c><00:39:26.659><c> be</c>

00:39:26.860 --> 00:39:30.460
able<00:39:27.039><c> to</c><00:39:27.320><c> talk</c><00:39:27.539><c> about</c><00:39:27.840><c> areas</c><00:39:28.340><c> where</c><00:39:28.659><c> one</c><00:39:28.980><c> spouse</c><00:39:29.559><c> is</c><00:39:30.139><c> hurting</c>

00:39:30.460 --> 00:39:31.420
another<00:39:30.980><c> spouse.</c>

00:39:31.480 --> 00:39:38.340
This<00:39:31.679><c> is</c><00:39:31.920><c> where</c><00:39:32.019><c> you</c><00:39:32.199><c> have</c><00:39:32.400><c> the</c><00:39:32.579><c> opportunity</c><00:39:33.219><c> to</c><00:39:35.059><c> remove</c><00:39:35.719><c> those</c><00:39:36.519><c> areas,</c><00:39:37.519><c> those</c><00:39:37.780><c> things</c><00:39:38.179><c> that</c>

00:39:38.340 --> 00:39:39.320
might<00:39:38.480><c> be</c><00:39:38.699><c> blind</c><00:39:38.900><c> spots.</c>

00:39:39.320 --> 00:39:47.400
So<00:39:40.059><c> on</c><00:39:40.340><c> page</c><00:39:40.659><c> 66,</c><00:39:41.500><c> you</c><00:39:41.780><c> are</c><00:39:42.199><c> jotting</c><00:39:42.599><c> down</c><00:39:43.199><c> those</c><00:39:43.880><c> areas</c><00:39:44.420><c> in</c><00:39:44.719><c> which</c><00:39:45.059><c> you</c><00:39:45.340><c> have</c><00:39:45.539><c> been</c><00:39:45.860><c> hurt</c><00:39:46.320><c> by</c>

00:39:47.400 --> 00:39:48.920
your<00:39:47.880><c> spouse.</c>

00:39:49.860 --> 00:39:54.900
Then<00:39:50.159><c> when</c><00:39:50.300><c> you're</c><00:39:50.559><c> done,</c><00:39:51.599><c> there</c><00:39:51.840><c> are</c><00:39:52.480><c> seven</c><00:39:52.860><c> points</c><00:39:53.559><c> to</c><00:39:54.280><c> go</c><00:39:54.599><c> through.</c>

00:39:55.039 --> 00:39:56.059
Read<00:39:55.219><c> through</c><00:39:55.420><c> them</c><00:39:55.639><c> together.</c>

00:39:56.159 --> 00:39:59.519
Number<00:39:56.440><c> one</c><00:39:56.639><c> begins</c><00:39:57.000><c> with</c><00:39:57.260><c> when</c><00:39:57.400><c> you</c><00:39:58.300><c> have</c><00:39:58.380><c> both</c><00:39:58.480><c> finished.</c>

00:39:59.599 --> 00:40:01.539
Exchange<00:40:00.199><c> your</c><00:40:00.559><c> lists.</c>

00:40:01.860 --> 00:40:05.599
You<00:40:02.099><c> read</c><00:40:02.400><c> over</c><00:40:02.800><c> the</c><00:40:03.039><c> lists</c><00:40:03.440><c> on</c><00:40:03.760><c> how</c><00:40:04.000><c> you</c><00:40:04.199><c> have</c><00:40:04.420><c> hurt</c><00:40:04.659><c> each</c><00:40:05.019><c> other.</c>

00:40:05.599 --> 00:40:14.280
And<00:40:06.579><c> then</c><00:40:06.800><c> you</c><00:40:07.039><c> use</c><00:40:07.360><c> the</c><00:40:07.719><c> reflect</c><00:40:08.320><c> back</c><00:40:09.800><c> skill</c><00:40:11.480><c> that</c><00:40:11.719><c> we</c><00:40:12.119><c> had</c><00:40:12.360><c> yesterday</c><00:40:12.780><c> with</c><00:40:13.579><c> the</c><00:40:13.820><c> M</c><00:40:13.980><c>&Ms.</c>

00:40:14.340 --> 00:40:18.320
You<00:40:14.500><c> just</c><00:40:14.880><c> listen</c><00:40:15.480><c> to</c><00:40:16.340><c> your</c><00:40:16.599><c> spouse</c><00:40:17.000><c> and</c><00:40:17.320><c> then</c><00:40:17.559><c> reflect</c><00:40:17.920><c> back</c>

00:40:18.320 --> 00:40:20.300
to<00:40:18.539><c> them</c><00:40:18.820><c> what</c><00:40:19.119><c> you</c><00:40:19.300><c> have</c><00:40:19.480><c> heard.</c>

00:40:20.940 --> 00:40:23.340
And<00:40:21.139><c> then</c><00:40:21.280><c> the</c><00:40:21.420><c> other</c><00:40:21.639><c> spouse</c><00:40:21.980><c> has</c><00:40:22.239><c> an</c><00:40:22.400><c> opportunity</c><00:40:22.940><c> to</c><00:40:23.219><c> do</c>

00:40:23.340 --> 00:40:23.780
the<00:40:23.579><c> same.</c>

00:40:24.000 --> 00:40:28.280
So<00:40:24.380><c> you</c><00:40:24.619><c> should</c><00:40:24.840><c> read</c><00:40:25.079><c> through</c><00:40:25.320><c> those</c><00:40:25.639><c> seven</c><00:40:25.940><c> points</c><00:40:26.260><c> of</c><00:40:26.559><c> instruction</c><00:40:27.139><c> between</c><00:40:28.079><c> the</c>

00:40:28.280 --> 00:40:28.860
two<00:40:28.420><c> of</c><00:40:28.579><c> you.</c>

00:40:28.860 --> 00:40:33.519
This<00:40:29.599><c> is</c><00:40:29.880><c> probably</c><00:40:30.400><c> the</c><00:40:30.599><c> most</c><00:40:31.559><c> sensitive</c><00:40:32.380><c> and</c><00:40:32.780><c> difficult</c><00:40:33.260><c> of</c>

00:40:33.519 --> 00:40:37.980
the<00:40:33.800><c> exercises</c><00:40:34.340><c> for</c><00:40:34.639><c> the</c><00:40:34.780><c> weekend,</c><00:40:35.960><c> so</c><00:40:36.199><c> keep</c><00:40:36.460><c> that</c><00:40:36.719><c> in</c><00:40:36.860><c> mind.</c>

00:40:38.739 --> 00:40:44.019
But<00:40:39.099><c> if</c><00:40:39.219><c> it</c><00:40:39.380><c> is</c><00:40:39.579><c> done</c><00:40:39.739><c> with</c><00:40:39.940><c> the</c><00:40:40.159><c> right</c><00:40:40.400><c> frame</c><00:40:40.679><c> of</c><00:40:40.920><c> mind,</c><00:40:41.380><c> it</c><00:40:41.599><c> allows</c><00:40:42.699><c> both</c><00:40:43.340><c> spouses</c><00:40:43.719><c> to</c>

00:40:44.019 --> 00:40:47.340
be<00:40:44.119><c> able</c><00:40:44.260><c> to</c><00:40:44.519><c> talk</c><00:40:44.659><c> about</c><00:40:44.940><c> issues</c><00:40:45.440><c> that</c><00:40:45.980><c> it</c><00:40:46.280><c> would</c><00:40:46.460><c> be</c><00:40:46.739><c> helpful</c>

00:40:47.340 --> 00:40:53.139
to<00:40:48.519><c> talk</c><00:40:48.880><c> about</c><00:40:49.199><c> in</c><00:40:49.380><c> order</c><00:40:49.619><c> to</c><00:40:49.900><c> reach</c><00:40:50.519><c> resolution</c><00:40:51.639><c> in</c><00:40:52.000><c> some</c><00:40:52.179><c> cases.</c>

00:40:54.119 --> 00:40:55.860
So<00:40:54.219><c> any</c><00:40:54.619><c> questions</c><00:40:55.099><c> on</c><00:40:55.320><c> the</c><00:40:55.539><c> assignment?</c>

00:40:55.860 --> 00:40:58.440
I<00:40:56.099><c> think</c><00:40:56.340><c> if</c><00:40:56.639><c> you</c><00:40:56.840><c> need</c><00:40:56.980><c> to,</c><00:40:57.159><c> you</c><00:40:57.199><c> can</c><00:40:57.320><c> go</c><00:40:57.519><c> back</c><00:40:57.699><c> and</c><00:40:57.880><c> read</c><00:40:58.059><c> through</c><00:40:58.260><c> it.</c>

00:40:58.800 --> 00:41:03.019
But<00:40:58.800><c> step</c><00:40:59.099><c> number</c><00:40:59.480><c> one</c><00:40:59.659><c> is</c><00:40:59.980><c> to</c><00:41:01.260><c> fill</c><00:41:01.480><c> out</c><00:41:01.639><c> page</c><00:41:01.900><c> 65</c><00:41:02.500><c> for</c><00:41:02.780><c> your</c>

00:41:03.019 --> 00:41:03.599
own<00:41:03.260><c> hurts.</c>

00:41:03.599 --> 00:41:07.480
And<00:41:03.920><c> then</c><00:41:04.320><c> step</c><00:41:04.800><c> two</c><00:41:05.219><c> is</c><00:41:05.500><c> page</c><00:41:05.719><c> 66</c><00:41:06.500><c> for</c><00:41:06.760><c> how</c><00:41:06.920><c> your</c><00:41:07.159><c> spouses</c>

00:41:07.480 --> 00:41:08.380
hurt<00:41:07.739><c> you.</c>

00:41:08.800 --> 00:41:12.119
And<00:41:08.940><c> then</c><00:41:09.119><c> have</c><00:41:09.300><c> a</c><00:41:09.420><c> discussion</c><00:41:09.960><c> of</c><00:41:10.460><c> those</c><00:41:10.739><c> two.</c>

00:41:27.400 --> 00:41:31.739
Hopefully<00:41:28.219><c> you</c><00:41:29.039><c> found</c><00:41:29.980><c> that</c><00:41:30.940><c> session</c><00:41:31.300><c> helpful.</c>

00:41:31.739 --> 00:41:33.800
If<00:41:31.920><c> you</c><00:41:32.039><c> didn't</c><00:41:32.199><c> have</c><00:41:32.420><c> time</c><00:41:32.659><c> to</c><00:41:32.900><c> complete</c><00:41:33.219><c> it,</c><00:41:33.539><c> well,</c><00:41:33.639><c> you've</c>

00:41:33.800 --> 00:41:39.119
got<00:41:33.980><c> aspects</c><00:41:34.380><c> of</c><00:41:34.659><c> the</c><00:41:35.880><c> conversation</c><00:41:36.400><c> you</c><00:41:36.659><c> want</c><00:41:36.840><c> to</c><00:41:37.099><c> pursue</c><00:41:37.659><c> afterwards.</c>

00:41:40.119 --> 00:41:42.460
That's<00:41:40.679><c> to</c><00:41:41.139><c> be</c><00:41:41.460><c> expected.</c>

00:41:43.059 --> 00:41:44.500
Would<00:41:43.219><c> make</c><00:41:43.599><c> a</c><00:41:43.940><c> request.</c>

00:41:44.920 --> 00:41:48.980
We<00:41:45.380><c> didn't</c><00:41:45.739><c> extend</c><00:41:46.639><c> this</c><00:41:47.659><c> session</c><00:41:47.920><c> any</c><00:41:48.260><c> further,</c><00:41:48.579><c> but</c><00:41:48.780><c> there</c>

00:41:48.980 --> 00:41:51.420
is<00:41:49.260><c> a</c><00:41:49.460><c> homework</c><00:41:49.699><c> assignment</c><00:41:50.159><c> on</c><00:41:50.420><c> page</c><00:41:50.639><c> 69.</c>

00:41:51.420 --> 00:42:00.900
So<00:41:52.860><c> we</c><00:41:56.019><c> won't</c><00:41:56.219><c> go</c><00:41:56.519><c> through</c><00:41:56.679><c> it</c><00:41:56.960><c> other</c><00:41:57.239><c> than</c><00:41:58.659><c> to</c><00:41:59.559><c> strongly</c><00:42:00.000><c> encourage</c><00:42:00.639><c> you</c>

00:42:00.900 --> 00:42:06.980
both<00:42:01.219><c> to</c><00:42:01.480><c> do</c><00:42:01.599><c> that</c><00:42:01.900><c> exercise</c><00:42:02.440><c> on</c><00:42:02.659><c> your</c><00:42:02.860><c> own,</c><00:42:04.940><c> either</c><00:42:05.519><c> later</c><00:42:06.059><c> today</c><00:42:06.599><c> or</c>

00:42:06.980 --> 00:42:08.860
sometime<00:42:07.460><c> tomorrow.</c>

00:42:12.820 --> 00:42:19.639
It<00:42:13.519><c> has</c><00:42:14.219><c> been</c><00:42:14.739><c> found</c><00:42:15.059><c> to</c><00:42:15.280><c> be</c><00:42:15.559><c> helpful</c><00:42:16.059><c> to</c><00:42:17.960><c> situations,</c><00:42:19.340><c> especially</c><00:42:19.360><c> where</c>

00:42:19.639 --> 00:42:21.079
it's<00:42:20.199><c> applicable.</c>

00:42:21.699 --> 00:42:24.119
And<00:42:21.940><c> let</c><00:42:22.119><c> me</c><00:42:22.260><c> just</c><00:42:22.559><c> make</c><00:42:22.739><c> one</c><00:42:22.940><c> other</c><00:42:23.199><c> point.</c>

00:42:24.519 --> 00:42:29.360
The<00:42:25.159><c> purpose</c><00:42:25.579><c> of</c><00:42:25.800><c> this</c><00:42:26.079><c> weekend,</c><00:42:26.460><c> we</c><00:42:26.659><c> don't</c><00:42:26.860><c> really</c><00:42:27.159><c> have</c><00:42:27.480><c> the</c>

00:42:29.360 --> 00:42:35.559
focus<00:42:30.000><c> or</c><00:42:30.500><c> the</c><00:42:30.760><c> resources</c><00:42:31.179><c> here</c><00:42:31.960><c> to</c><00:42:33.099><c> deal</c><00:42:33.460><c> with</c><00:42:33.699><c> an</c><00:42:34.000><c> issue</c><00:42:34.440><c> that</c><00:42:34.679><c> might</c><00:42:34.900><c> exist</c><00:42:35.400><c> in</c>

00:42:35.559 --> 00:42:38.699
your<00:42:35.800><c> marriage</c><00:42:36.199><c> that</c><00:42:36.480><c> is</c><00:42:36.760><c> bigger</c><00:42:37.179><c> than</c><00:42:38.019><c> what</c><00:42:38.199><c> we've</c><00:42:38.539><c> talked</c>

00:42:38.699 --> 00:42:39.699
about<00:42:39.019><c> this</c><00:42:39.280><c> weekend.</c>

00:42:39.699 --> 00:42:44.340
And<00:42:40.579><c> by</c><00:42:40.840><c> that</c><00:42:41.019><c> I</c><00:42:41.199><c> mean</c><00:42:41.400><c> if</c><00:42:41.780><c> you</c><00:42:42.000><c> have</c><00:42:42.199><c> a</c><00:42:42.440><c> situation</c><00:42:42.940><c> in</c><00:42:43.159><c> your</c><00:42:43.340><c> marriage</c><00:42:43.619><c> that</c><00:42:43.860><c> is</c>

00:42:44.340 --> 00:42:48.579
really<00:42:45.079><c> causing</c><00:42:45.480><c> difficulties</c><00:42:46.239><c> for</c><00:42:46.659><c> you</c><00:42:47.420><c> that</c><00:42:48.039><c> you're</c><00:42:48.340><c> not</c>

00:42:48.579 --> 00:42:53.400
able<00:42:48.880><c> to</c><00:42:49.199><c> resolve</c><00:42:49.880><c> through</c><00:42:50.280><c> your</c><00:42:50.639><c> communication</c><00:42:51.559><c> with</c><00:42:52.639><c> each</c><00:42:52.940><c> other,</c>

00:42:53.400 --> 00:43:00.000
you<00:42:53.619><c> know,</c><00:42:54.619><c> first</c><00:42:54.780><c> of</c><00:42:54.940><c> all,</c><00:42:55.079><c> don't</c><00:42:55.300><c> be</c><00:42:55.519><c> surprised</c><00:42:56.199><c> because</c><00:42:56.559><c> it's</c><00:42:56.920><c> not</c><00:42:57.340><c> unusual</c><00:42:58.119><c> for</c><00:42:59.300><c> marriages</c><00:42:59.719><c> to</c>

00:43:00.000 --> 00:43:02.820
go<00:43:00.179><c> through</c><00:43:00.400><c> a</c><00:43:00.579><c> difficult</c><00:43:00.940><c> period</c><00:43:01.500><c> or</c><00:43:01.780><c> have</c><00:43:02.000><c> an</c><00:43:02.280><c> issue</c><00:43:02.559><c> that</c>

00:43:02.820 --> 00:43:10.219
comes<00:43:03.099><c> up</c><00:43:04.079><c> in</c><00:43:04.519><c> which</c><00:43:05.019><c> the</c><00:43:05.539><c> couple</c><00:43:06.019><c> needs</c><00:43:06.840><c> to</c><00:43:09.039><c> get</c><00:43:09.719><c> help</c><00:43:09.960><c> from</c>

00:43:10.219 --> 00:43:11.460
outside<00:43:10.639><c> the</c><00:43:10.900><c> relationship.</c>

00:43:11.460 --> 00:43:17.820
If<00:43:12.599><c> you</c><00:43:13.559><c> were</c><00:43:14.139><c> aware</c><00:43:14.800><c> of</c><00:43:15.039><c> all</c><00:43:15.320><c> the</c><00:43:15.380><c> times</c><00:43:15.679><c> that</c><00:43:16.000><c> happened,</c><00:43:17.719><c> you</c>

00:43:17.820 --> 00:43:22.780
would<00:43:18.260><c> recognize</c><00:43:19.179><c> that</c><00:43:19.400><c> that</c><00:43:19.559><c> is</c><00:43:19.800><c> not</c><00:43:20.139><c> an</c><00:43:21.000><c> abnormal</c><00:43:21.500><c> situation.</c>

00:43:23.159 --> 00:43:25.980
That<00:43:23.380><c> is</c><00:43:23.760><c> a</c><00:43:24.039><c> scriptural</c><00:43:24.800><c> principle.</c>

00:43:26.440 --> 00:43:32.079
When<00:43:26.679><c> two</c><00:43:27.000><c> brethren</c><00:43:27.440><c> can't</c><00:43:27.860><c> get</c><00:43:28.059><c> along</c><00:43:28.400><c> in</c><00:43:28.679><c> the</c><00:43:28.840><c> Ecclesia,</c><00:43:29.340><c> for</c><00:43:29.599><c> whatever</c><00:43:30.019><c> reason,</c><00:43:31.260><c> and</c><00:43:31.400><c> they</c><00:43:31.539><c> can't</c><00:43:31.780><c> be</c>

00:43:32.079 --> 00:43:35.800
reconciled,<00:43:33.000><c> Scripture</c><00:43:33.360><c> says</c><00:43:33.760><c> go</c><00:43:34.139><c> and</c><00:43:34.460><c> get</c><00:43:34.659><c> a</c><00:43:34.960><c> third</c><00:43:35.219><c> person.</c>

00:43:35.800 --> 00:43:40.980
Because<00:43:36.800><c> the</c><00:43:37.099><c> third</c><00:43:37.280><c> person</c><00:43:37.639><c> who's</c><00:43:37.860><c> able</c><00:43:38.119><c> to</c><00:43:38.420><c> bring</c><00:43:39.119><c> scriptural</c><00:43:39.860><c> principles</c><00:43:40.360><c> to</c><00:43:40.719><c> bear</c>

00:43:40.980 --> 00:43:44.739
can<00:43:41.260><c> help</c><00:43:41.739><c> resolve</c><00:43:42.679><c> the</c><00:43:43.000><c> unresolved</c><00:43:43.480><c> situation.</c>

00:43:45.239 --> 00:43:46.559
Same<00:43:45.400><c> thing</c><00:43:45.579><c> in</c><00:43:45.699><c> a</c><00:43:45.780><c> marriage</c><00:43:45.960><c> relationship.</c>

00:43:46.739 --> 00:43:54.440
So<00:43:46.960><c> if</c><00:43:47.239><c> you</c><00:43:47.519><c> have</c><00:43:47.679><c> a</c><00:43:47.980><c> situation</c><00:43:48.519><c> that</c><00:43:48.760><c> you're</c><00:43:48.940><c> dealing</c><00:43:49.239><c> with</c><00:43:49.519><c> and</c><00:43:49.679><c> you</c><00:43:49.860><c> just</c><00:43:50.239><c> can't</c><00:43:50.539><c> seem</c><00:43:50.719><c> to</c><00:43:50.860><c> get</c><00:43:51.039><c> resolution</c><00:43:51.559><c> with</c><00:43:51.739><c> it,</c><00:43:52.519><c> find</c><00:43:52.780><c> an</c><00:43:53.059><c> older</c><00:43:53.420><c> couple</c><00:43:53.840><c> is</c><00:43:54.099><c> what</c><00:43:54.260><c> I</c>

00:43:54.440 --> 00:43:56.559
would<00:43:54.599><c> suggest</c><00:43:55.119><c> in</c><00:43:55.420><c> your</c><00:43:55.639><c> Ecclesia.</c>

00:43:56.860 --> 00:44:00.880
Find<00:43:57.480><c> someone</c><00:43:57.480><c> you</c><00:43:57.659><c> both</c><00:43:57.960><c> trust,</c><00:43:59.059><c> someone</c><00:43:59.280><c> you</c><00:43:59.400><c> both</c><00:43:59.679><c> have</c><00:43:59.960><c> confidence</c><00:44:00.480><c> in</c>

00:44:00.880 --> 00:44:05.920
for<00:44:01.159><c> their</c><00:44:02.000><c> understanding</c><00:44:02.579><c> of</c><00:44:02.840><c> Scripture</c><00:44:03.340><c> and</c><00:44:03.619><c> their</c><00:44:03.800><c> ability</c><00:44:04.239><c> to</c><00:44:04.500><c> empathize</c><00:44:05.280><c> and</c>

00:44:05.920 --> 00:44:09.239
be<00:44:06.199><c> helpful</c><00:44:06.679><c> in</c><00:44:07.000><c> relationship</c><00:44:07.619><c> type</c><00:44:07.920><c> situations.</c>

00:44:09.679 --> 00:44:12.340
And<00:44:09.880><c> seek</c><00:44:10.440><c> out</c><00:44:10.639><c> their</c><00:44:10.800><c> help</c><00:44:10.980><c> because</c><00:44:11.239><c> really</c><00:44:11.539><c> what</c><00:44:11.679><c> you're</c><00:44:11.840><c> doing</c><00:44:12.139><c> is</c>

00:44:12.340 --> 00:44:15.079
you're<00:44:12.599><c> seeking</c><00:44:12.840><c> out</c><00:44:13.920><c> the</c><00:44:14.280><c> counsel</c><00:44:14.639><c> of</c><00:44:14.820><c> God.</c>

00:44:15.260 --> 00:44:17.860
Make<00:44:15.420><c> sure</c><00:44:15.679><c> they</c><00:44:15.900><c> are</c><00:44:16.300><c> confidential</c><00:44:16.780><c> people.</c>

00:44:18.420 --> 00:44:21.420
Make<00:44:18.760><c> sure</c><00:44:19.219><c> they</c><00:44:19.539><c> are</c><00:44:19.940><c> confidential</c><00:44:20.480><c> people.</c>

00:44:21.800 --> 00:44:25.019
If<00:44:22.320><c> the</c><00:44:22.539><c> husband</c><00:44:22.880><c> is</c><00:44:23.300><c> and</c><00:44:23.340><c> the</c><00:44:23.539><c> wife</c><00:44:23.699><c> isn't,</c><00:44:24.239><c> or</c><00:44:24.340><c> the</c><00:44:24.460><c> wife</c><00:44:24.719><c> is</c>

00:44:25.019 --> 00:44:27.260
and<00:44:25.039><c> the</c><00:44:25.219><c> husband</c><00:44:25.460><c> isn't,</c><00:44:25.760><c> you've</c><00:44:25.920><c> got</c><00:44:26.019><c> the</c><00:44:26.219><c> wrong</c><00:44:26.380><c> couple.</c>

00:44:27.679 --> 00:44:31.000
But<00:44:27.900><c> there</c><00:44:28.079><c> are</c><00:44:28.239><c> brethren</c><00:44:28.519><c> and</c><00:44:28.780><c> sisters</c><00:44:29.420><c> who</c><00:44:30.019><c> will</c><00:44:30.300><c> be</c><00:44:30.639><c> quite</c>

00:44:31.000 --> 00:44:36.440
willing<00:44:31.619><c> to</c><00:44:32.519><c> be</c><00:44:32.780><c> helpful</c><00:44:33.159><c> to</c><00:44:33.519><c> you</c><00:44:33.840><c> because</c><00:44:34.239><c> probably</c><00:44:34.980><c> somebody</c><00:44:35.940><c> had</c><00:44:36.219><c> to</c>

00:44:36.440 --> 00:44:39.659
help<00:44:36.619><c> them</c><00:44:37.400><c> 20</c><00:44:37.980><c> or</c><00:44:38.239><c> 30</c><00:44:38.500><c> years</c><00:44:38.800><c> ago.</c>

00:44:40.159 --> 00:44:42.139
And<00:44:40.420><c> that's</c><00:44:41.079><c> not</c><00:44:41.340><c> an</c><00:44:41.519><c> unusual</c><00:44:41.880><c> situation.</c>

00:44:42.539 --> 00:44:47.360
But<00:44:42.739><c> don't</c><00:44:43.739><c> hesitate</c><00:44:44.239><c> to</c><00:44:44.480><c> get</c><00:44:44.699><c> that</c><00:44:45.820><c> help</c><00:44:46.039><c> if</c><00:44:46.219><c> you</c><00:44:46.340><c> need</c><00:44:46.460><c> it.</c>

00:44:48.179 --> 00:44:51.500
Don't<00:44:48.780><c> pretend</c><00:44:49.380><c> issues</c><00:44:50.199><c> will</c><00:44:50.460><c> take</c><00:44:50.639><c> care</c><00:44:50.820><c> of</c><00:44:50.900><c> themselves</c>

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because<00:44:52.440><c> they</c><00:44:52.659><c> won't.</c>

00:44:54.019 --> 00:44:57.739
And<00:44:54.199><c> when</c><00:44:54.320><c> you</c><00:44:54.460><c> look</c><00:44:54.699><c> back</c><00:44:55.099><c> on</c><00:44:55.360><c> those</c><00:44:55.719><c> relationships</c><00:44:56.500><c> that</c><00:44:56.900><c> became</c><00:44:57.340><c> so</c>

00:44:57.739 --> 00:45:01.420
damaged<00:44:58.099><c> to</c><00:44:58.340><c> the</c><00:44:58.480><c> point</c><00:44:58.659><c> where</c><00:44:58.820><c> they</c><00:44:58.980><c> couldn't</c><00:44:59.179><c> be</c><00:44:59.519><c> reconciled,</c><00:45:00.780><c> it</c><00:45:01.079><c> wasn't</c>

00:45:01.420 --> 00:45:02.519
always<00:45:01.840><c> that</c><00:45:02.139><c> way.</c>

00:45:02.519 --> 00:45:07.199
But<00:45:03.300><c> unfortunately</c><00:45:05.179><c> we</c><00:45:05.360><c> don't</c><00:45:05.559><c> have</c><00:45:05.679><c> a</c><00:45:05.820><c> good</c><00:45:06.119><c> system</c><00:45:06.500><c> in</c><00:45:06.800><c> place</c><00:45:07.039><c> in</c>

00:45:07.199 --> 00:45:11.940
our<00:45:07.380><c> community</c><00:45:08.039><c> to</c><00:45:08.980><c> recognize</c><00:45:09.920><c> in</c><00:45:10.880><c> each</c><00:45:11.099><c> other's</c><00:45:11.619><c> personal</c>

00:45:11.940 --> 00:45:17.079
lives<00:45:12.739><c> where</c><00:45:13.860><c> the</c><00:45:14.500><c> commandments</c><00:45:14.900><c> of</c><00:45:15.219><c> Christ</c><00:45:15.980><c> part</c><00:45:16.519><c> of</c><00:45:16.800><c> our</c>

00:45:17.079 --> 00:45:19.320
beliefs<00:45:17.480><c> are</c><00:45:17.900><c> breaking</c><00:45:18.320><c> down.</c>

00:45:19.960 --> 00:45:23.000
We<00:45:20.039><c> know</c><00:45:20.460><c> we</c><00:45:21.000><c> have</c><00:45:21.159><c> excellent</c><00:45:21.599><c> means</c><00:45:21.980><c> to</c><00:45:22.219><c> identify</c><00:45:22.639><c> with</c><00:45:22.780><c> the</c>

00:45:23.000 --> 00:45:25.119
first<00:45:23.159><c> two</c><00:45:23.400><c> parts</c><00:45:23.579><c> of</c><00:45:23.760><c> our</c><00:45:24.000><c> statement</c><00:45:24.199><c> of</c><00:45:24.440><c> faith,</c><00:45:24.739><c> the</c><00:45:24.920><c> first</c>

00:45:25.119 --> 00:45:27.059
principles<00:45:25.599><c> and</c><00:45:25.820><c> the</c><00:45:25.980><c> doctrines</c><00:45:26.280><c> to</c><00:45:26.480><c> be</c><00:45:26.639><c> rejected.</c>

00:45:27.480 --> 00:45:29.920
We<00:45:27.619><c> can</c><00:45:27.820><c> tell</c><00:45:27.980><c> right</c><00:45:28.219><c> away</c><00:45:28.460><c> when</c><00:45:28.599><c> a</c><00:45:28.800><c> person</c><00:45:28.960><c> goes</c><00:45:29.280><c> astray</c><00:45:29.579><c> there.</c>

00:45:29.920 --> 00:45:32.059
So<00:45:30.639><c> get</c><00:45:30.820><c> the</c><00:45:31.000><c> help</c><00:45:31.119><c> that</c><00:45:31.260><c> you</c><00:45:31.380><c> need.</c>

00:45:32.380 --> 00:45:36.539
Talk<00:45:32.619><c> it</c><00:45:32.800><c> over</c><00:45:33.019><c> and</c><00:45:33.699><c> make</c><00:45:34.639><c> it</c><00:45:34.780><c> a</c><00:45:34.840><c> matter</c><00:45:35.019><c> of</c><00:45:35.280><c> prayers</c><00:45:35.440><c> you</c><00:45:35.619><c> need</c><00:45:35.800><c> to.</c>

00:45:36.699 --> 00:45:39.019
But<00:45:36.900><c> unresolved</c><00:45:37.280><c> issues</c><00:45:37.780><c> don't</c><00:45:38.239><c> take</c><00:45:38.380><c> care</c><00:45:38.519><c> of</c><00:45:38.619><c> themselves</c>

00:45:39.019 --> 00:45:40.000
and<00:45:39.300><c> they</c><00:45:39.400><c> don't</c><00:45:39.539><c> go</c><00:45:39.760><c> away.</c>

00:45:40.320 --> 00:45:41.980
They<00:45:40.320><c> just</c><00:45:40.980><c> get</c><00:45:41.159><c> worse.</c>

00:45:42.300 --> 00:45:45.159
So<00:45:42.440><c> we'll</c><00:45:42.619><c> turn</c><00:45:42.760><c> it</c><00:45:42.900><c> back</c><00:45:43.099><c> over</c><00:45:43.320><c> to</c><00:45:44.159><c> Brother</c><00:45:44.420><c> Tim.</c>