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them.<00:17:32.490><c> For</c><00:17:32.789><c> example</c><00:17:33.369><c> when</c><00:17:33.670><c> they</c><00:17:33.970><c> ask</c><00:17:34.289><c> for</c><00:17:34.529><c> something</c><00:17:34.869><c> we</c><00:17:35.329><c> might</c><00:17:35.569><c> need</c>

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but<00:19:19.269><c> too</c><00:19:19.730><c> often</c><00:19:20.009><c> I</c><00:19:20.250><c> find</c><00:19:20.490><c> myself</c>

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reminding<00:19:21.609><c> my</c><00:19:21.930><c> children</c><00:19:22.230><c> to</c><00:19:22.490><c> do</c><00:19:22.730><c> things</c><00:19:23.009><c> they're</c><00:19:23.470><c> already</c><00:19:23.849><c> responsible</c><00:19:24.609><c> for.</c><00:19:25.630><c> Okay</c><00:19:26.029><c> guys</c><00:19:26.609><c> we're</c><00:19:27.029><c> going</c><00:19:27.049><c> to</c><00:19:27.150><c> be</c>

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leaving<00:19:27.509><c> in</c><00:19:27.730><c> about</c><00:19:28.029><c> five</c><00:19:28.390><c> minutes</c><00:19:28.710><c> so</c><00:19:29.009><c> can</c><00:19:29.170><c> everyone</c><00:19:29.430><c> please</c>

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responsibility<00:19:58.809><c> to</c><00:19:59.190><c> run</c><00:19:59.349><c> through</c><00:19:59.589><c> the</c><00:19:59.789><c> list</c><00:19:59.930><c> in</c>

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